Some people come out of relationships and ‘box’ themselves up because they feel/think they cannot do better than their ex. They form a strong bond (in their mind) with the ex so much so that it’s like their every breath depends on them. They shy away from new relationships because the new cannot be as good as the old – but truth is you can never really allow yourself to think that you can’t do better.
You have to have the power to think that if that last option was the very best that you could do then you probably would be with them. The fear of not doing better than the ex is one of many reasons some people are sticking to the single life (a fact they always deny).
There are (very) few circumstances when people break up for no reason (you know that fed up season almost relationships go through) and even when that happens, it is a clear sign that you didn’t have the stamina to see it through. In those dark moments when you find clarity, you also find acceptance. Part of acceptance is accepting that things are what they are and there’s nothing you can do to about that now.