Mention being a naïve/childish/silly/ignorant/prudish/crazy/no nonsense attitude – I have being been there/done it and still doing some. Some I have grown out of (age), others I dumped when I got wiser (maturity) and one or two I need to maintain because it’s done more good than harm to me.
When I was young, among other things, I only had two types of men in my head I always ‘lied’ to myself I’ll marry when they cross my path. A handsome man like my father or brother (now that is what I call babyish) but then as I got older, I realised that incest was what was on my mind because everybody is an individual and I’m never going to get a daddy-lookalike or brother-lookalike.
With age, maturity and exposure (in numbers) comes clarity in how we relate to people presently and in future endeavours. A lot of the reasons things don’t work out for us (in all areas of our lives) has got to do with immaturity – nothing to do with others but everything to do with us. We didn’t realise we were insensitive, arrogant and proud. The ‘things’ which becomes clear with maturity:
Common sense is not so common to all. Being intelligent or very educated does not mean having common sense.
‘Privacy’ and keeping mum about our damn business actually comes with maturity. It may feel good to let the world know what’s happening in our private businesses but you can’t tell everything to everybody (even if they’re friends because majority of our so called friends are fre-enemies). Put some out and keep some in. Some of our problems erupted when we started inviting others into our business by sharing too much and unnecessary information.
If you hate breakups – look away now! I believe experiences of dating the good, bad and ugly (in character) is/are extremely necessary; in order to discern what traits we are more compatible with. The fear of breakups makes people stay in relationships when their hearts are not even there. How can you explore when you’re bent on staying with the first guy/girl who comes around? Starting new relationships will gives a clearer idea/picture of what you can simply live with or without.