Some of us were brought up with the value of ‘being kind’ or ‘learn how to share/give’ but unfortunately, it seems some people were brought up with the (dis)value of take, take and take from people ‘until they have nothing more to give’. Kindness may be monetary, time or even a good advice (one advice to someone may change a significant thing in their life).
There are some people who really find it difficult to ask or seek for help, because either they’re not used to asking or they have their pride (the good pride of independence) – but sometimes ask for the help they really need. When they receive the help, they show appreciation and off they go. Then, there are others who ask for help once and expect your ‘shop’ to be opened all year round. The day the shop closes – friendship ends.
Many people have gone through tears and hardship to be where they are in life. They had to forgo luxury, work like elephants and eat like ants because if they don’t, they can’t achieve some goals they’ve set before them. If this person who is now comfortable – stretches out his/her arm of kindness to help someone that does not mean the person should be your pillow all the time. We take people’s kindness for granted too much and it’s always the people who give that most of the time, never get a helping hand when they are in dire need.
Personally, I think good people die early because they think everybody is/should be like them – good. They open themselves to undeserving people to abuse their kindness; before they realise what is left of them – the shock alone takes them to their early grave. The fact that you cannot cheat, steal, lie or be ‘wicked’ does not mean everybody should be/is like that. There are people who are now ‘mean’ and I just don’t blame them because someone turned them that way and other people have found themselves in a rut because they were helping a friend out.