When you tell people ‘me first’, they think/feel you’re selfish. People throw the selfish word anytime things don’t go their way and these same people invented ‘me, myself and I’ (very selfish).
Selfish people are very difficult to deal with. All your time, love and resources should be channelled to them leaving YOU out of the equation. In every situation, you have to take care of YOU. Putting you first is not being selfish. If you don’t learn how to treat you with love, care, trust, and respect, you can’t treat others the same.
Loving yourself first and foremost, taking care of your emotional and physical wellbeing isn’t being self-centred – it’s very healthy.
Taking care of yourself first is not selfishness – it’s seeking out your interest first and foremost before any other thing/person. Being a people pleaser does not make us selfless; it’s a ‘selling pursuit’ with an expectation of getting something in return.
There are people out there who do things for others and help, and it’s not actually because they put everyone above them but because they remember that they have to take care of themselves and know their limits so that they can actually help others to the best of their ability.