Setbacks, disappointments, mistakes and failures are part of life. Each and every one of us will go through these at some point in our lives (unless you’re superman/woman). Most of the time, there’s not much we can do to control the challenges we come up against even though we try to prevent some inevitable hiccups.
Some people are very (or naturally) resilient in the face of adversity and others are not. We all have different ways of dealing with disappointments and setbacks plus the ‘timeframe’ we take to heal. How we react to or deal with our failures and disappointments is what really counts
I know people who bounce through life, enduring setbacks and never allow their setbacks to shake them and what I noticed with these people is their upbringing and the environment in which they grew up coupled with surviving past difficult times influenced their resilience. They are ‘hardies’ and are very open to change and interpret any stressful experience as a normal part of life. They approach life with optimism and find meaning even in negative experiences.
Unfortunately, some people don’t have the art of bouncing back and standing on their feet. They need to go through healing process and cleaning up by talking and more talking (without any action) and expect things to fall into place for them or for someone else to clean their mess for them. They find it very difficult to dust themselves off after a fall – even if they caused the fall themselves.