Have you ever met a lady/gentleman with bad body odour but always complaining about other people’s odour or a talkative telling another talkative he/she talks too much?
We’re very quick to wave off people and complain about the flaws of others when we are in the same category with them but feel they have a problem. Before you tell someone to go buy a deodorant, buy limes to deal with your odour. We all have a baggage in one way or the other; the only difference is some people’s baggage is in double excess which requires one with a very large heart to deal with.
Certain life experiences naturally confer ‘some baggage honours’ on us – it may not seem like a baggage to us but it is to others. Unfortunately, other people’s baggage is such a big deal to us that they’re not ‘dateable’ or ‘marriageable’.
Some people are even saddled with self-esteem issues – that is their baggage. They have been in relationships which they allowed themselves (yes they did – not the other person) to be emotionally and psychologically abused. They’ve automatically accepted the ‘door mat’ lifestyle where they find it very normal for ‘love interests’ to treat them anyhow. When they get someone who treats them well and with respect, they start reading meanings into everything and even get suspicious of the person. Dealing with an emotionally damaged person is not a walk in the park.