“Before I marry you……..or I’ll only marry you if……” The moment a partner starts stating terms and conditions before he/she will settle with you, sometimes it is better to give him/her a miss.
No one is more important than you, if you think someone is more important than you are, you need to re-evaluate yourself. Why will you date someone for a considerable length of time and start giving conditions when the issue of marriage comes up?
When going in for a him/her, in broad day light, the person was a size 12 or 16, you even lived together under the same roof…then you later say ‘unless you lose weight forget it.” Why didn’t you go in for the size 10 you love from the word go? The only person you can control in a relationship is you. You should not be the one bending all the time….Compromise is a two way street.
To change for someone else cannot work because initially it creates a lot of resentment and, ultimately, a lot of anger if the result that was expected does not happen. This is when the infamous, “After everything I have sacrificed for him/her!” kicks in, and it is not a pretty experience.
It is high time you stop changing yourself for a man/woman. A person who really wants you will not be giving you terms and conditions to abide by, above all expect you to change what you are and who you are for their pleasure.
I was reading a magazine and came across a very interesting story – true story, about a couple, not yet married but living together. The woman was a size 12 but her partner requires she put on extra weight before he will take her to the altar. The woman realised a bit too late that the man was in fact killing her before she sought for help – And the man left her.