‘I thought love will conquer her ways…but alas’ – it’s very easy to have that mentality but it’s only in novels and movies that love always wins. People throw the ‘love conquers all’ memory verse ignoring the reality that opposing values, faith, or priorities can often put a serious strain on relationships, which love just can’t overcome or conquer…considering what love means to an individual.
Many couples/partners believe in their heart of hearts that if there’s enough love between them, all problems will be conquered. But this wishful thinking often leads to heartbreak. Some people use that as an aid to help them forgive people who have wronged them – but what if the person keeps doing the same thing over and over? I think love is much more of paying lip-service than really being in love and some think it’s polite to say ‘I love you back’ to someone.
Abusive relationships in any forms: physical, mental, sexual, psychological, financial and in some cases persistent cheating. Every rough patch in a relationship has its circumstances, but to be constantly battered by a ‘loved one’ on a regular basis is not love, and no amount of love or wanting will ever change that. In fact to overlook such behaviours in relationship into marriages in the vague hope that one day things would be rosy and perfect would indeed be naive and foolish, regardless of how ‘perfect’ you may think things are.