Dear Chris-Vincent,

As a woman who grew up in Ghana before moving to the United States, one thing I have always known and be told is not to go near the husband of another woman. Personally, I think a woman can sleep with whoever she pleases if her conscience does not pull the guilty plug on her but when it comes to someone’s husband, that is a big NO.

I am writing this in response to the on going debate on your blog-GhanaCelebrities.Com about whether it was right or wrong that Janet Bandu was messing with Castro, knowing he was the husband of another woman living in Canada.

I have always told my friends that, women are our own enemies and things men will not do to themselves or their friends, we will do it to other women without thinking twice.

I do not have to be really worried about my husband’s friends hitting on me because men seems to have this rule that, they should not mess with the wife of another especially if the woman is their friend’s wife or someone they know.

But I cannot say the same for women. I cannot leave my husband with some of my friends (in fact almost all my friends) without having to have my eyes at my back. Women do not know of loyalty and the slightest mistake you will make, some will be sleeping with your man including your own friends or sisters. That is how bad things have become and it is getting worse with African women as the days go by.

It is therefore not shocking to me that some readers think it was not really a big deal that Janet Bandu was on a weekend trip with Castro and friends, knowing that Castro was married. She did not seem to care and so does some of the readers.

I have heard women say, one woman’s husband is another woman’s boyfriend which suggests that, it does matter if a man is married or not, you can have your share of him.

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