Reading this breaking story of KKD’s arrest for alleged rape just threw me off. Rape has and always will be a complex situation that is sometimes hard to dissect.
According to the Criminal Code, rape is defined as se*ual intercourse without consent (this includes anal intercourse), penetration of a persons vulva, vagina or anus to any extent with penetration to any extent of a person by a penis without their consent.
Then again, what is se*ual intercourse? It is defined as se*ual contact between individuals involving penetration, especially the insertion of a man’s erect pen*s into a woman’s vag*na, typically culminating in orga*m and the ejac*lation of semen. This definition rectified my initial thought that sexual intercourse includes all preliminary stuff including flirtations, cuddling, kissing and fondling all leading up to actual penetration.
At this point I will take you on a journey a few years back when my friend was the same age as this young lady accusing KKD of rape.
Partying late one night with friends, she was approached by this cute but goofy looking guy who looked to be in his 30’s. “You are so adorable”, he said, and as patronizing as that sounded she did give him her number. Why? It’s simple. My friend craved attention and it seemed like he could give her an overdose of it.
And I guessed right. This man (later found out he was 40) spoilt her rotten to the extent that even I was considering having a side fling with him. He had made his intentions clear to her from day one that he wanted to have a relationship with her and just like any other relationship she knew s*x would be a factor. The odd thing was, he never pestered her for s*x but I am guessing he was patiently nurturing her for that as she had previously expressed fears about the act.
The day finally came when he felt it was time for s*x and with much coercion my dear friend gave in. According to her, she had enjoyed the fondling and foreplay, but truly did not want actual penetration and she did make her feelings known.