As adults, we all have preferences and a right to decide what works for us—especially when it comes to private activities like what goes on in our bedrooms.
I am one of the many (perhaps in the majority) who feel comfortable and able to enjoy what is being done to my body if the lights are off—I wouldn’t mind a candle at the corner of the room though.
I’ve been with men who want to see what they are touching and therefore would want the lights on, bright and shinning.
When I was with these men, I had to compromise but to be frank, I never enjoyed the bedtime stories to the peak because the light was always a destruction and I couldn’t push my mind to the far away land.
Luckily for me, my current partner does not mind if the light stays off or on, and though we do not have a choice when we do it in the day, at night, I get to crawl and put the light off—and then, I can comfortably get into my element.