Dear GC,

I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for about 5 months now and I really love this guy.  He is every woman’s dream guy. The problem is a  I found out something heartbreaking about him in our second month of dating which is killing me.

I don’t know how to approach him about the issue.  I wanted to ignore it and just build a relationship but i’ve come to realise that it’s not helping me and I want to talk to him about it but I don’t know how  to start.

Barely 2 months of dating I was chatting with an old mate in school who was lamenting over a break up she was going through, how the boy is ignoring her and won’t even give her any reasons for his actions. She was so down and I was about going offline so I took her number to call her later and encourage her.

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Dear GC,

I met this Ghanaian guy on facebook and he is in USA. We started dating after couple of conversations and we seemed in love, but for some time now, he does not call or send me messages.

I do the calling which I really do not mind. My problem is, when he misses my calls he does not return them claiming he is busy. I have my doubts because how could he be so busy that he can not even spend a minute to inbox me.

I want to forget about him. Is it the right thing to do. I have discussed this severally with him but there is still no change. Should I forget about him or should I hope for a change?

Erica,

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Dear Erica,

I am very certain of the advise I’m about to give you and the straight and simple answer to your question is no, you should not hope for a change.

No matter how much your desire encourage you to think this can or may happen, it won’t. As you stated you have brought this to his attention more than once and he has not changed so it won’t just suddenly happen.

He will only feel you are nagging him and as I’m sure you know men detest this! In all honesty, no one wants to be nagged at and if he continues to miss your calls, that is his way of saying he is not listening or agreeing with you. As painful as this is for you that is the naked truth.

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Dear GC,

I wasn’t sure whether to write in this because I don’t know if I would be taken serious at all. It’s often easier to talk to strangers than it is to talk to those close to you as those close to you always judge you.

I moved to New York when I was young. My mother had passed away and my father was one of those men who decided to eventually move on with a new family.

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Some say that opposites attract. I’ll have to be honest here and say yes they do. This is the only reason it is even acceptable in romantic comedies and romance novels. There is research, from the psychological to the biological to the social, to bear out the theory.

Women are attracted by the smell of men with a different gene pool than theirs. High-strung people want a partner who will act as a calming influence on their tempers and even the bad boy wants a nice girl to take home to mama. Analogies are given with the north and south poles of a magnet and the reason more people are heterosexual. Yeah, opposites do attract but for how long?

You see, differences creates an initial attraction – one person has traits that the other doesn’t or vice versa and for some people, this is exciting; in other words, attractive. So in the right circumstances, these two people will get together. They believe they are in love. During the honeymoon phase of the relationship, they may be able to work around their differences – read, they don’t sweat the small stuff – but what about the long term?

Let’s look at some examples; one’s a vegetarian, the other loves beef, one’s introverted and the other an extrovert, one loves football and the other hates all things sports; or an extreme one where one is a frugal control freak and the other an impulsive spend thrift. Just imagine two such people in a marriage with maybe one or two children. I can’t see it, lol.

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Dear GC,

I have been with this guy for a year and five months, and there is still so much I don’t understand about him and I need advise because am so very much confused.

Before I go into why I’m confused, I’d  like u to know that throughout this period of dating, we’ve never had sex. I won’t deny that we have tried having sex but it just hasn’t happened. I fear so much because I feel he will leave me afterwards because of the things I just don’t get about him though he has not tried to force me.

My reason for being confused is that, he has refused to let me meet either his family or friends. He gave the excuse that his father is a very strict man and for his friends, he doesn’t have close friends.

Aside from all these, I hardly see him. We see like once in three months though we communicate everyday. My problem is he is not working but always busy on a family errands.

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Have you ever had that friend or friends who has pretty much been single for most of the time you’ve known her and you just don’t get it? Not only does she glow in the dark on nights out but she is also an amazing person who always looks fab and knows how to have a good laugh.

I guess we ladies are very different in our intimate relationships because it never makes sense why a lot of my now single friends are single. Aside from the fantasy make-myself-feel-better list: They’re either married, gay, in the army, in prison, a vicar etc.

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Dear GC,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and I can honestly say he is the man that has ticked 9 out of 10 things I want in a man. When we first met he was finishing his second year of university and looking forwards to completing his final year.

The summer was amazing and I really had a chance to look at our relationship as one that would go the distance. He made it clear how he felt about me and made a point of making me a big part of his life. We were like glue and spent everyday of the summer together.

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Kim Kardashian was recently spotted rockin her new braided hair that she swapped in place of her usual long wavy locks as she went for her gym workout. I’m not so  keen on the look to be honest BUT hey she tried something new right so kudos to her. So now I need some inspiration for what to change my locks and looks to. I need a new hair do to go with my new can-do attitude 😉

If you’re anything like me you don’t quite feel on point and sassy if your locks aren’t lookin’ slick and sweet! I can remeber a few times returning from hair salons and going straight back when I still can’t get over the bumps and lumps that were hidden from my view. It’s crazy right? The London Times News Paper once wrote an article about the fact that black women spend the most amount of money on their hair out of all the different cultural backgrounds. I read the titlle of the article and thought…say no more. I put my hand up, but not in shame. I dont much care for spending £200 on a pair of shoes but i’ll do that for my hair in a hot minute!

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I can’t help but get ahead of time and take a sneak peak at the key trends for 2011 spring/summer seasons. Well ladies it is truly my duty to keep SassyChic! readers in the loop and up to date!

Spring/Summer 2011 trends are predicted to be an assortment of Biker Chic Clothing, Bell Bottoms, Punk Fashion, Bold Stripes, Tail Hems,  Tassels, lace, Bow Shirts and kitten heels. If some of that sounds a bit puzzling you can get on trend here with pictures to keep you in the know!

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