Dear GC Readers.

Though I’m in my late twenties, I’ve only had three partners in my life, this includes my current Boyfriend. We started dating almost 4 months ago and he has been patient enough to wait before having sex. This makes me feel he truly loves me as he says.

I feel like I’m ready for us to make love but he refused to have STI checks. He said he has always been careful and if he were sick or had caught something he would know. I tried to explain it doesn’t work like that and eventually agreed when I said I’d do one also.

To my complete distress after my test, I was called in and told I have hepatitis B. Which I know I caught from my ex; we were together for 4 and half years and thought I could trust him.

Since finding out, I have been so depressed and now I don’t know how and if to tell my man. I love him so much and I’m so scared he’ll judge me and leave me.

His tests all came through clear and he is now wondering why I won’t make love to him. I lied by saying they lost my results and it has to be redone. We can always use condoms and I don’t have to tell him right?

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Dear Stella,

Being in a loving relationship will mean at some point you need to make selfless decisions. I can’t say this bluntly enough, you must tell your boyfriend the truth.

I can imagine this news was a big shock for you, though you should know hep B is not as intense as other more damaging and fatal STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections).

I’m sure part of you wanting to keep this secret is because you feel if he leaves you’ll be left dealing with this situation alone.

I’m however wondering though how clearly you’ve thought your possible decision through. Bear in mind your ex boyfriend is the one you said betrayed you and lied; you’re considering doing something similar to your current man. 

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Dear GC Readers,

I think I may have lost the love of my life. I’m 34 and met my man just over a year ago through mutual friends. When I first met him he really wasn’t my type but I fell for him hard and fast.

When we met I knew he was a Muslim which was obvious because of his name but even though he says he doesn’t practise Islam he can only marry a Muslim. This is surprising coz he even drinks. At this point it was extremely hard to walk away as we had been dating for over six months by then.

I’m a Christian but like him I’m not devout. He really is perfect in every way and he always says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I told him I would  convert as I loved him and knew I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life.

I started attending classes to learn the Quran and how to dress in the right way, I was even learning Arabic. I was so dedicated and my man was so happy and proud of me.

I really thought that once I had made all the effort to change my religion and give up so many things like church and Christmas, he would set a date but there was no mention of it and I got me very frustrated.

One Friday afternoon I suggested we go to the mosque which he agreed and was happy that I had asked. Then it all went very badly wrong.

We fought because he was late and said he had to meet with friends after. I basically waited for him to come to my place that night and blasted him about the sacrifices I had made and why he hadn’t even proposed!

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Dear GC,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost four years now and I’m thinking of ending it all after she betrayed me. I’ve always trusted her in all ways and never expected that she could ever steal from me.

I’d been saving money to pay for my professional exams. Even though she couldn’t help me financially she has always been encouraging and supportive with me trying to improve my chances at a better job. In fact she is the one who helped me research and find the best course.

I had saved almost six thousand pounds in total and was due to enrol next month only to find that my savings account had almost been cleared! After numerous calls and investigations, video footage showed a man who was able to produce my I.d and had access almost all the money. I have not used my drivers licence in a while so didn’t even notice that it had gone missing.

My girlfriend appeared sympathetic but I noticed she seemed shifty and unsettled every time I bought it up. I started checking her phone and e-mails after she slipped up on info that I hadn’t even told her regarding the stolen money.

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Dear GC,

I have a really big dilemma because I’m 21 years old and I’m having an affair with my married neighbour who is 36. We’ve been neighbours for around 3 years now and ever since he and his family moved into the area, I had a crush on him.

I can honestly say it wasn’t the kind of crush where I was expecting it to go anywhere but just a little harmless teen crush. The guy is one of those people who’s really friendly with everyone he meets and chats to everyone.

He’s particularly friendly to me and my family and I would say we are really close.

I see him a lot when I’m going to the shops or something and we can always laugh around and joke about things. I’m quite friendly with his wife also.

Over time, my crush on him did eventually disappear and I started viewing him as a regular friendly neighbour. Until about 3 months ago when I added him on to my BBM contacts and we started talking on BBM as well as on the phone.

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