I have dated a good number of women but grouping them based on their countries of origin makes it quiet easier to keep track of the experience and realize how people behave differently—probably based on where they come from…
I think I should state at this point that, not all the dates landed me in bed. I am talking about getting to know women beyond friendship with intention of a relationship—despite the fact that the intention does not have to always materialize.
Conversation/Communication
From my experience, being able to build the first contact and conversation with women from Ghana is the easiest. I am sure this is influenced by the fact that I am also from Ghana and we definitely can throw in a lot of common talks.
Similarly, it was pretty an easy flow with the two Nigerian girls I dated and the beautiful Sierra Leonean high heel lady too.
Unfortunately, I couldn’t hold any proper conversations with the two African Americans and a certain Barbados girl I dated while at the University. And I pretty much believe the huge cultural difference made it impossible for us to share anything in common—-even on subjects of international nature; we could not find suitable ones to discuss.
General Experience
Let me fast forward this to share my behaviour experience about these women of different countries…
As much as the Ghanaian ones held on certain values and principles which no amount of persuasion could push them to abandon, the beautiful African American ladies and Bajan princess did not hold tight on any identifiable values.
To me, they were extensively open minded about everything and without hesitation, where ready to try whatever comes their way—-as long as it was not a hardcore poison.
My experience with the two Nigerians is pretty fascinating. They were not ready to let go their self derived principles but were pushy to let you ditch yours. I am not sure if it will be appropriate to say they were close minded to incoming threats.
Settling Down
Interestingly, it was easy to establish from conversations, attitudes and general outlook of life that all the Africans I have dated were thinking about settling down in life—-even if it was not with me, they had that sort of wish…
The African Americans and the princes from Barbados were more interested in experience what is out there in life and I did not sense the WILL to immediately or within the shortest possible time find a permanent heart to settle in.
When Money Is Involved
As liberal as the Ghanaian women were, they had difficulty in parting with their money and expected a man to make all payments—even if it was for the two of them.
The Nigerians and Sierra Leonean were pretty worse. They did not only expect that the things we did together be taken care of financially by me, they had the expectation that their own issues must be taken care of too—financially.
The African Americans and the Bajan did not have any of such expectation that I could sense. They pretty much wanted to split everything into two and take care of their portion. And I think they were more willing to help when money was involved compared to the other nationals…
Why this? I am not sure…
Sex Life
Finding yourself in bed with a woman has lost its historical value.
To most women, liking someone or being h*rny is enough to seek a bedtime adventure with the person. But it seems the Nigerians and Ghanaians still place more value on jumping into bed with a man, compared to the African Americans, Bajan and the dark Sierra Leonean lady I dated.
And for the men, if you are looking to go to heaven and back, try the Nigerians!
Have you dated anyone from a different country? How was your experience? Do these people have total different mind-set from what you are used to?
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