Nollywood actress Padita Agu has opened up on a very big mistake she made in her life – getting married to a man on the very day they met.
It sounds crazy to even think about but she did exactly that and needless to say, it did not end well.
Agu, who is now divorced, revealed her story in a YouTube video we’ve spotted.
According to her, she had been in a long-distance relationship with the guy, who was then staying outside Nigeria.
After dating for a while over the phone and the internet, he said he was coming down – but he proposed they should get married the very first time they met!
For whatever reason, whether desperation or naivety, Padita agreed.
After the marriage, things went sour and she has now divorced the man after three years of hell.
Read part of her story below and watch the video… we can all learn from this.
”This guy and I have been talking over the phone and we got to the point of agreeing to be married. So he decided to sell me this wonderful idea, that how about we go on some adventure, lets get married the very first day we get to see because all this while we have been taling, I don’t remember his face. I haven’t seen him. He just saw me once when I came to my friend’s place to consolde her. He might I seen me in my movies, I don’t know. All I know is that at this point, we don’t really know each other. We haven’t seen each other but we have been talking over the phone. I don’t remeber his face, I don’t remember how he looks but we have been talking so we are so familiar but not just facially.
So he said okay, how about we try some adventure, we arrange a marriage and we just see ourselves right at the registry when we are getting married. I was like wow, that’s deep, that is serious. I was like what would my family say? What would I say to them> I was just scared but excited at the same time. So he said for my family, we don’t have to tell them about the secret marriage. So once we are done, we would go and meet them as though we were just dating and we tell them we want to get married and we take it from there.
So once we get married, maybe years later, if we had kids and all that, we can now open up to them and say ‘oh by the way, we had a secret wedding. At that point, it wouldn’t matter because then, we are already married. And as for him and I, once we do it and we meet ourselves and we realise we don’t want this anymore, as quietly as we did it, we would just go and undo it.
So I thought to myself, there is no harm in this. If we don’t want it again, we dissolve it quietly like he said and my family don’t have to know because eventually we would wed properly. So, I thought it was a nice idea.
So, I went to the regustry because he was out of the country at the time. I went to the registry,got us registered. The day came, it was my birthday. He also chose my birthday to make it special. So I felt wow, this is amazing. That day I didn’t tell anyone. In between, he told me not to tell anyone. that if I tell people, nobody would encourage it for some negative reason. Some might be jealous.
On the wedding day, I arrived at the registry with a cab. He arrived with a cab. The cabman who brought me signed as my witness while the one who brought him signed as his witness. and we wedded. From their, we went to see my family to tell them we were dating and wanted to get married.
The marriage lasted for three years and that three years is the worst I have ever gone through in my almost four decades of living to the point I attempted suicide. I just wanted to kill myself and end it. There was this thing about actresses not staying in marriage so I just couldn’t see myself leaving and so I just wanted to stay there. Since I couldn’t leave, I thought I should just end this whole trouble. I know some of you would be like this is why this girl left the industry. Yes, this is why I left the industry. He didn’t tell me to leave directly but indirectly, he got me out of the industry, cut me off everyone, everything…my career, my school, my family, friends…ecept friends he was okay with them”
Source: GhanaCelebrities.Com