6 Things Not to Do In A Relationship | A Guide from Another Woman

In our relationship series that we started three weeks ago, we brought you 5 things not to do on that first date. We are continuing from where we left off. We assume you have done everything right to get into that relationship; hence we bring you 6 things that you should never do in this relationship. Your past relationships did not work for a reason and you do not want this relationship to tow the same line as those other relationships. Brace yourself for these guides…. 1. Communicate with your partner Relationships are a partnership. A team. A two-way street. They’re supposed to enhance your life, not complicate it. Communication is key in helping achieve a successful relationship. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues. It’s okay to vent about a fight or issue with a friend to get advice, but make sure you've talked about it with your partner first. By spending time complaining about how “he doesn't care about my feelings” or “she’s selfish” to your friends, you’re spending less time actually confronting the problem which can possibly change the situation for the better. 2. Never Bring Up the past nor hold grudges This is a no-go area. Don’t even do it in a positive way because once you open up that area without boundaries, a negative comment can creep in. Keep the relationship you’re in now sacred and unique. This is a major NO-NO in an argument. In a relationship, you should only be focusing on the present. No matter how brutal a fight might get, you should never bring up an event from the past. You have to leave it behind. If your boyfriend cheated on you or did something that hurt you at one point, you have absolutely no right to bring it up again and use it as ammunition. You have to leave the past where it belongs. If you forgive them for something and you both decide to move on, that means no bringing it back up, no matter how well it might work in your favor at the moment. Another thing similar to bringing up the past is holding grudges against each other. Someone in a couple might feel justified to do something immoral just because their boyfriend did something similar before. Or they’ll refuse to do something super special for their birthday just because the other didn't do it for them this year. There is no such thing as keeping score in a relationship. You cannot base your actions and decisions on past occurrences. It’s unhealthy and immature. They don’t make us feel better or make the problem go away, and should be avoided at all times. A healthy relationship doesn't hold grudges. Swallow your pride, and make it work. That’s what it’s all about.situation for the better. 3. Avoid jealousy and unnecessary flirting with the opposite sex Flirting is actually one of the main reasons couples fight. There’s a distinct difference between being friendly and polite, and flirting. Flirting can lead to jealousy which is the core of all-evil. It’s a horrible feeling and should be avoided at all times. It’s not respectful to flirt with the opposite sex, even if it’s harmless or unintentional. When you act possessive with your other half, they feel it. They are not your property, and you shouldn't want them to be. Jealousy usually comes from deep insecurities the person has that goes far beyond who they’re dating or what they’re jealous about. If he’s showing signs now, it’s a red flag for the future. 4. NEVER lose your sense of self or forget about your friends In so many relationships, people lose who they are. They pick up their significant other’s tastes, hobbies, interests, style, everything. It’s great to be able to share what you love with someone you love, but it’s another thing to forget who you are as an individual. If you feel completely at a loss without the other, you’re in trouble. No matter how in love you may be with a person, you should still always have yourself and cherish your independence. We've all been there. You meet someone new and you enter the puppy love stage where you always want to see them, talk to them, or be talking about them. You forget about all of your other priorities and responsibilities because you’re so caught up with this one person. But you should never, ever forget about your friends. Your friends were there first. They stood by your side longer than this person, and there’s a good chance they’ll still be by your side long after they are gone. Always make time for the other important people in your life. Don’t be that person who breaks up with their boyfriend and then is suddenly always around. There should be a balance. 5. Stop putting in effort This is what usually happens when you get too comfortable with someone – you simply stop trying. You stop complimenting them and treating them like they’re someone special. You stop putting time and thought into birthdays, anniversaries, and romantic dates. You stop trying to impress them or make them feel good or show that you love them. Relationships take work, so even if just one person stops trying it will inevitably crash and burn. 6. Solve Problems Amicably Ghanaian ladies are fond of this. We push our men to the limit and when they respond we cry cry foul. Challenging them to hurt you, and verbally poking at them to fight longer and more will almost always work. Just don’t don't do it. When you’re that angry and hurt, take a deep breath, agree to leave the room and resume when you’re calmer . There is no rule that all fights need to be resolved with a winner or loser right then and there. In an escalating argument you will both lose.

6 Things Not to Do In A Relationship | A Guide from Another Woman

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