We all live our lives differently – different dreams, aspirations, ideologies, lifestyles etc. Some of us judge people according to our standards and values. We ‘expect’ them to enjoy what we enjoy. We’re not in any way obligated to live up to everyone’s expectation.

There are some crazy, insecure, all-knowing narrow-minded judgemental freaks out there who don’t understand why you don’t do that. You’re a realist, I’m a fantasist – good for you; I’m very comfortable just the way I am. If I love my own company, don’t ask me why I don’t get out more often. You’re holy and righteous and I’m a sinner going straight to hell – none of your business. Don’t judge me because I chose to sin differently in the open.

People need to be allowed to do what they want as long as it is not intruding on someone else’s values and life. Allow people to live their lives as they want to and how they please – whatever they do will not add or take anything away from you. The life they’re living is meaningful to them…..it’s not meant to make sense to you because it’s NOT your life. Their standards and values suit them just fine so concentrate on what works for you.

Everyone can’t like/love what you like/love; they don’t want what you want. They don’t enjoy your hobbies…if sleeping is their favourite pastime or their lifetime ambition – don’t ask them ‘if they’re for real?’ Do you talk to ghosts? Walk comfortably in your own shoes and allow others to do same…Stop wearing yourself out thin. It is your life. Other people’s opinions, and particularly their opinions of you, are none of your business.

If someone truly feels good or genuinely content with who they are as a person, they won’t care what you decide to do concerning anything. When someone is miserable in their life that’s when they become obsessed with wanting to control your decisions.

We’re all ‘uniquely and differently made’ I choose to be a Christian, an atheist, Muslim, protagonist, antagonist, an introvert, an extrovert, homosexual, heterosexual, hardworking, lazy, exposed, ‘villager’, successful, single, married, knack all the men in the world, narrow-minded…it’s my call. My life at the end of the day is the sum of my decisions and not your values or standards. I take full responsibility.

What will really happen if people don’t see you the way you see yourself?