‘I can’t live without you’ – sounds romantic right? You can proudly pat yourself on the back that you’re their oxygen. Yes – words can win some people’s hearts but some are not necessarily compliments. Some people saying the “I can’t live without you” statement probably are just trying to emphasize how much they feel love for someone. They, therefore, are not to be taken as speaking literal truth. They might be saying it light-heartedly or just because it seems like the romantic thing to say. Of course, some might say it as a seduction or manipulation effort. When said with serious meaning then it becomes something to worry about.
People who are very jealous, clingy, heavily dependent, love addicted and very controlling people cannot tell what a healthy, parasitic and toxic relationship is. Majority (if not all) ‘I can’t live without you’ relationships don’t end very well. In some circumstances, one is forced to be in a relationship he/she does not want and in severe/dangerous cases physical abuse, abnormal stalking and attacks are inflicted if/when the person who is ‘depended upon’ threatens/tries to leave/leave the relationship.
See the growing number of acid victims! It seems the easiest way for people to deal with ‘solvable’ issues is to use acid as their weapon. It’s heart-breaking the way people especially women are being bathed with acid these days. There are some people you have relationships with and you just end up signing a contract with the devil him/herself.
Think about it – the person telling you they can’t live without you was living perfectly fine before he/she met you so why can’t they live again because you don’t a relationship anymore? Not that they ‘love’ you but because they don’t want you to get a move on. When someone tells you they cannot live without you, you’re better off examining the person’s attitude to rejection, how they behave when ignored and when you request for a breathing space because such people have a dangerous way of venting their anger when things go south – and its consequences are always deadly.
If the “I can’t live without you” theme is predominant in relationships – almost like the relationships’ ringing tone – extreme care is recommended because it’s a gentle reminder you’re stuck with them and you don’t even attempt to move if you love your dear self! Until they want to leave, the relationship can then be dissolved. So, in effect, you’re in a relationship with a selfish person and that is enough to evaluate the ‘love’ they’re professing.
Love is in people. People who don’t have love cannot love another no matter the number of times they profess it. Professing love and having love are two parallel things. Don’t take some ‘I can’t live without you’ on face value because many people are mad but just a few of them are roaming the street. If you love yourself you can live without people when relationships break down.
If you are an able-bodied and able-minded adult the hard but good truth is you can survive, you can take care of yourself and you will eventually recover. Thus, for functioning adults “I can’t live without you” is false – don’t let people blackmail you to stay in relationships you’re not happy in!