As an African woman, I am worked out and damn tired of the constant judgement of women by society, especially men who mostly live below the standard they judge women with…
These judgements make me feel women are deemed as persons who cannot make their own decisions—do not know what is good for their lives and as such, a bunch of self chosen rulers must determine what women do with their lives, including how many times they wanna f**k or who they f**k.
When a woman gets to a certain age, I will comfortably tick this age at 25; such a woman should have developed all the needed senses of reason and rational thinking to be able to decide for herself, what she is good for her—and once again, including how many times a week she wants to cook in her own damn pot without people rolling their eyes.
What makes us human beings as opposed to some animals camped at a Zoo and being watched by their kidnappers is the fact that, we have autonomy over about bodies—we are free to do whatever we want with our bodies.
This may seem simple in principle but any attempt to practice body autonomy on an African soil wouldn’t be possible because a bunch of strangers will judge you from your toe to your head—calling you all manner of names for deciding to enjoy your own body or give it out to whoever you find fit.
The true definition of prostitution which is considered a social vice by majority of people is trading s*x for money—and it is not, cooking as many times as you want in your POT. But people seem to ignore the fact that, it is not the number of times a woman cooks in her POT that makes her a prostitute, rather, what the person gets in return for the cooking…
Today, there are several so called ‘expensive young girls’ in Ghana sleeping with men purposely for money well defined in their minds as a business transaction—and perhaps because they are with one man at a time (for about 3-6 months), they are not termed prostitutes. Yet, if I decide to bring home a different man each night for purely enjoyment purposes without any money exchanging hands, I would quickly be labelled as such…
I hate this but it seems that is our people’s understanding of prostitution—forgetting that, a woman has an inherent right to decide the number of times she wants to cook in her own pot and no one should have to be worried.
I have had people look at me funny because of this position I have taken when it comes to body autonomy and to be frank, how does it affect you or how is it your business if I decide to open my legs for any Peter I find tall in the course of my year?
People like to poke their noses into the affairs of others to the extent that, they now feel they have a strong say in what another full grown adult does with her life—when this does not in anyway affect them.
Strangely, these same people forget that we all have different taste buds and while some people are light eaters, others like to continuously eat large. Few women can go a week without cooking in their pots and even though they have autonomy over their bodies, they continue to struggle in darkness for fear of the pointing fingers of some strangers who pretty much seem bored with their lives and therefore have take keen interest in that of others.
No one is in this world to save strangers and even if you feel you are; the stranger also has rights and the most important of such personal rights is her ability to ‘bang’ herself until she cannot walk again—with whoever she wants and how many times she wants.
I will understand another’s problem if in the exercise of a woman’s right to body autonomy, she is messing with her husband—but even that, such a woman should have major problems with her husband, not the strange woman who is just having fun with her life while the other will die short of that fun…
I hate the increasing nature society is being judgemental when it comes to women and how we want to use our own bodies…
If I desire to bend over for the invisible pen each dawn with a different teacher, that is my goddam business and that is my own goddam pot—it shouldn’t be your headache or subject of conversation. After all, I am not even taking money from it so you cannot call my activities a social vice; I just happen to have different needs and high level of appetite…
And remember, every adult woman has autonomy over her body; what a woman does with her body or the number of times she decides to cook in her pot should not be used as the rod of social judgement. It shouldn’t even matter to you let alone make it into your books of judgement.
Can’t a woman freely scream any more? For me, it’s my neighbours I damn pity…
Please spare us this s e x, s e x, s e x non sense!! We don’t need brainwasing blogs like your’s to be constantly inculcating bad western habits in our youth. Are you happy to see a once ”decent” nation filled with promiscuous and lazy youth? Honestly, there’s enough filth in our system and we don’t need westernized people of your ilk to add more to it!!
exactly what Akosua said is what you are doing. is it your body? Ghanaian men are hypocrites and not enlightened. You and who do not need what? Women cannot do what they want because you don’t want it. BULLSHITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
Another f o o l! Keep following a blind f o o l and you’ll both land in a ditch! Siaaaa! What’s come over f o o l i s h recent Ghanaians like you to choose vice over virtue? Do you know what the n o n s e n s e you preach does to individuals, families and society in a whole? Gyimifo
Same s l u t, same bullshhh!! We will keep all your wack writings for future reference and disgrace you and your family with them! Lol, you love playing the devil’s advocate, don’t you? Ash a a a wo
Akosua true talk. Especially the men have to shut the F. They will be the ones to come here to attack you. Say is sister and do whatever you want with your pot. I love the pot expressing. Cook fufu in there if you like
Every Good Africa woman knows that the continue cooking in one pot makes that pot develop a hole. My dear, continue cooking wai but don’t cry if u develop the hole because u will very soon
hahahaa waka as3m no. Very soon it will become a useless pot
Well I think most Ghanaian men are naturally traditional.I guess people wouldn’t be so happy with this article but I think it’s about time we learn about the rights of our women.Rights and norms shouldn’t be mixed up.This article if elsewhere is accepted not only in the West but I know it will be very difficult to be digested in by Ghanaian men.I don’t think this article influenced anything.We always try to behave like our society is all perfect and with high morality which I think it’s not even true,I think we should stop behaving like the ostrich and rather face our problems.Lets ask ourselves,how many of our women are still naive as we always try to believe.Its really her pot what can you do?Lets just hope even though it’s her pot she can keep it clean and cook less.
AIDS is real u low life wh***re. I think you don’t have any man who’ll be exclusive with u due to ur “manhole” therefore u jst let them f**k n go. I know u really wish u had one person to f**k all the time bt since that’s not forthcoming you’ve decided to accept ur fate n convince urself it’s ok.
Get a life THOT.
GC people who visit your site are 99% Africans, and we live by norms and culture.
Our home land is already full of indecency aside crimes and endless poverty, in fact your anti -Crist preaching and your up – comming immorality adornments is big No No! Better halt it
Those who use their pots for public service can continue to do so, because it’s their business.
But it shouldn’t be a public debate.
Why do people act like they get begged to read the posts here? If u disagree with the writer, u could could politely state ur point and get off here.
In truth, it is really my pot and I determine what I cook, when and how many times I cook in it. Its not just that we are Africans. Humanity has gotten to the point where we should all accept that women have the sole right to their own anatomies and don’t require any man’s permission.
Akosua, as always, u stated my mind. R u sure we r not related?