I do not like to come on here always upset—as many may begin to call me an angry black woman, especially the men.
But since my circumstance which usually pushes me into frustration has not changed and the world we live in today is full of cotton headed men, I guess you will be reading a lot from me in this tone—things will change when some goddamn aliens descend from outer space and take away all the waste of time men who keep getting on my nerves.
In fact, I don’t really care if you think of me as an angry black woman—you don’t even know me so who gives a toss? Whatever it is that is currently going through your mind about me is your damn problem.
I have my own issues and surely you do have yours too. If you want to leave your issues unattended to and appoint yourself the moral police or the person in charge of counting upset people in the world without pay, then good for you.
For me, I freaking much do not care how you use your time and energy since all what some people do nowadays is to sit and judge people—without knowing the sort of hardship and nonsense they’ve been put through.
Before jumping to my main subject, let me clear the bushes by telling the men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time.
Men think (I will not say some because all of them do and if you are offended, go and jump into the red sea) they are far smarter than women. And they seem to think they define who gets used in relationships—mostly, placing themselves as winners.
What these men forget is that, women are also human beings and just as they have the human feeling to want s£x sometimes, if not all the time, women do too. The only difference is that, we are extensively smarter than them and when we want it, we do get it but in a diplomatic and cunning ways such that, we retain our pride.
Few years ago, I was having fun with an area guy and yet he thought he was playing me. He had a girlfriend at Dansoman which I didn’t care. Even if he told me, I wouldn’t have mind but he kept pretending—all along thinking he was playing smart.
I used to call him when I was home alone and felt like getting laid. Just as I talked about the cotton heads, he would always run to work things out with me. Even when he came, I would pretend I invited him because I merely needed his company and nothing else. I would put up the ‘shakara’ attitude and in due course let him in…
Eventually, I got tired of his services and decided to end the affair, let’s call it the area banging. Let me be honest here, I met another guy who worked near my office and I thought his pocket was a little cushioned so I went in for him. And I didn’t want any area loser who gossips about his s£x life texting me or calling me at wrong times to put my financial security in jeopardy.
Anyway, it turned out that this new guy was pretending and he was equally suffering the Accra hardship just like me. The posh car I spotted him driving was for his friend who had traveled. When the owner came, dude was back on the trotro so what was the point? I just needed him to pick and drop me from home to work, an attempt to escape the trotro headache. Since that was not going to happen, I had to disappear…
When I ended my little affair with the area guy, I heard rumours going around about how he used and dumped me. Perhaps, it should have been how I used him to fulfil my pleasure and dumped him. But then again, men think they are the only ones who have desires so in his mind, he was using me—another pig in a human skin.
Now, let’s get into why I am writing this and if you know me, you should by now know I am here to pump some sense into the many cotton heads who think high of themselves and less of women, especially when both have engaged in the same enterprise.
Why do men ask the question; how many men have you slept with when they meet you or begin to date you? Ironically, if you tell them the actual truth, they get upset and yet they ask and demand for the truth. Such a bunch of people with balls and yet have no balls to take the truth. Screw them!
I’ve had to divide the number of people I’ve slept with by the number 4, and then present the answer to any of those men who have asked me but recently, I decided to say the truth. And it is not that I’ve just given my life to Jesus Christ but because, I couldn’t take the accompanying nonsense from men anymore…
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It is pretty cool and it has always been this way for the men to say or for them to tell their friends they’ve slept with about 15 women—and counting. These men who have probably been used by these 15 women will go about parading themselves as ‘champion condoms’ and society endorses it.
But tell the man or any aspect of society that you’ve slept with 15 men or just fantasise about doing the same—and the thought of it alone will make these people call you a wh*re or if you are lucky, they will not be that ghetto and will say you are a prostitute.
This is where these men are just being plain stupid but they seem not to know. So if they are going about sleeping with 15 women each, don’t they think it is the same set of world women they are sleeping with even if the connection is not that close? Perhaps, they think they’ve been sleeping with aliens from Pluto. The numbers add up for the women too—duh, do your mathematics well.
For me, if a man dare asks how many men I’ve slept with; I’ve learnt to look into his face and put the right number on the table. Calmly, I will look into his ball-less eyes and say “I’ve slept with 12 fools who couldn’t stay around—I just hope you will not be the next”.
The measuring rode for morality or ethics or whatever useless discipline this comes under must be the same for both men and women. If a woman steals and it is bad, it should also be bad if a man does it. What kind of garbage is this and why have we allowed ourselves for so long to be judged by people who are worse than us?
Why does it even freaking matter the number of men I’ve been with? That is just the men; do you also want to count the toys and fingers too? Stupid mindset…
That’s the society we find ourself in today, men think they are superior to woman when it comes to the issue of sex forgetting that what men can do women can even do it better. Nice write up.
That’s the society we find ourself in today, men think they are superior to woman when it comes to the issue of sex forgetting that what men can do women can even do it better. Nice write up.
I love you Akosua you making me laugh so much with your hard truth.Some men are just dogs and they think they are too smart. They are allowed to sleep with women as much as they want and if the same is done by a woman, she will be called names. Even if no fault of the woman the men keep deceiving her she will still be called a prostitute
I love you Akosua you making me laugh so much with your hard truth.Some men are just dogs and they think they are too smart. They are allowed to sleep with women as much as they want and if the same is done by a woman, she will be called names. Even if no fault of the woman the men keep deceiving her she will still be called a prostitute
If a opens many locks it’s a master key. It’s pretty shitty lock however if it can be opened by any key. In your rebellious state of mind you’ve quite cheapened yourself I’d say. Basically you slept with a guy just for rides in a car he didn’t even own? And another in your area for companionship? First of all any girl regardless of looks can get laid. Any average looking girl will have a slew of men lining up to boff her. Same can’t be said for guys…a guy must have some sort of appeal like the car that attracted you for instance. Or money…Or be funny. For celebs who sleep indiscriminately with willing girls, it’s the hard work they’ve put in to get to their celeb status that makes this possible. So ultimately a guy has to put in lots of work to get laid. A woman only has to be half willing. In your case like this you slept with a man who pretend to own a car when he didn’t. You never will have if he didn’t own the car. We all know who trumped in this scenario.
So if a man has multiple partners, it’s usually indicative or reflective of some sort of success. A woman merely has to be half willing to open her legs and voila! With this it should be understandable how society views either sex when they’re promiscuous. You’re horribly off the mark here madam.
First of all what kind of success are you talking about? pure nonsense. Also cut the master key crap. A key that opens every padlock is also a useless key becos a key is meant to open just one padlock.
You are of the people in society who think men should take pride in having slept with multiple partners but a woman should not? What is good for the goose is good for the gander
Lol and probably one of those who believes women should be under men….loooool….somebody missed the point here…. Andy it’s all rounds up to the hypocrisy in our society by these so called men of our society….
Unsurprisingly u both totally missed the point. i’ll indulge u just this once.
The writer is clearly stating that she trades or traded sex at a least once for the convenience of riding in a car and money from someone who didn’t even have the money or the car. Theres a name for such a woman and it is NOT independent woman. Theres no problem at all with a woman who wants to have sex with ten men provided she isn’t deceiving or lying to any of her partners. Theres a big problem however when a woman TRADES sex as the author was doing. Thats low key prostitution or as the nigerians say “runs girl”, not least for something as basic as riding in car. How low can u stoop?
Now like i said before Men have to work hard to get women. Everybody appreciates a hard working person. If you’re a hardworking woman urself and u decide to have as many sexual partners as u want because its your choice and not because you’re trading your body for car rides and little money then no probe at all.
This article had lots of potential to address this rather interesting issue and state an excellent case for women. The only thing it does however is glorify “hoeing”.
If a opens many locks it’s a master key. It’s pretty shitty lock however if it can be opened by any key. In your rebellious state of mind you’ve quite cheapened yourself I’d say. Basically you slept with a guy just for rides in a car he didn’t even own? And another in your area for companionship? First of all any girl regardless of looks can get laid. Any average looking girl will have a slew of men lining up to boff her. Same can’t be said for guys…a guy must have some sort of appeal like the car that attracted you for instance. Or money…Or be funny. For celebs who sleep indiscriminately with willing girls, it’s the hard work they’ve put in to get to their celeb status that makes this possible. So ultimately a guy has to put in lots of work to get laid. A woman only has to be half willing. In your case like this you slept with a man who pretend to own a car when he didn’t. You never will have if he didn’t own the car. We all know who trumped in this scenario.
So if a man has multiple partners, it’s usually indicative or reflective of some sort of success. A woman merely has to be half willing to open her legs and voila! With this it should be understandable how society views either sex when they’re promiscuous. You’re horribly off the mark here madam.
First of all what kind of success are you talking about? pure nonsense. Also cut the master key crap. A key that opens every padlock is also a useless key becos a key is meant to open just one padlock.
You are of the people in society who think men should take pride in having slept with multiple partners but a woman should not? What is good for the goose is good for the gander
Lol and probably one of those who believes women should be under men….loooool….somebody missed the point here…. Andy it’s all rounds up to the hypocrisy in our society by these so called men of our society….
Unsurprisingly u both totally missed the point. i’ll indulge u just this once.
The writer is clearly stating that she trades or traded sex at a least once for the convenience of riding in a car and money from someone who didn’t even have the money or the car. Theres a name for such a woman and it is NOT independent woman. Theres no problem at all with a woman who wants to have sex with ten men provided she isn’t deceiving or lying to any of her partners. Theres a big problem however when a woman TRADES sex as the author was doing. Thats low key prostitution or as the nigerians say “runs girl”, not least for something as basic as riding in car. How low can u stoop?
Now like i said before Men have to work hard to get women. Everybody appreciates a hard working person. If you’re a hardworking woman urself and u decide to have as many sexual partners as u want because its your choice and not because you’re trading your body for car rides and little money then no probe at all.
This article had lots of potential to address this rather interesting issue and state an excellent case for women. The only thing it does however is glorify “hoeing”.
LOL! this is unbelievable! You slept with a man because you thought he was wealthy and your finances will be secured! Glorified prostitution and you come here and spout about it? You’d be onto something at least if u slept with him because you wanted to. The whole game changes when you TRADE sex for something.
I’m all for sexually liberated women but not glorified prostitutes or courtesans.
LOL! this is unbelievable! You slept with a man because you thought he was wealthy and your finances will be secured! Glorified prostitution and you come here and spout about it? You’d be onto something at least if u slept with him because you wanted to. The whole game changes when you TRADE sex for something.
I’m all for sexually liberated women but not glorified prostitutes or courtesans.
you said it all hun..men think they r shatta´s bcs they´ve slept with soo many women,not knowing they are the ´´men whooores´ in this case..i always laugh when a guy starts to back up and change his mind when he finds out that the girl he´s interested in has slept with mayb 8-12 guys,then thinks she´s no good looool!!pathetic…as for me,if i tell you the truth and u cant handle it,fine!walk away after all you are not the only man in this world..are you?..and if you have the nerve to call me any nasty name,i´ll just cut off your manhood,shove it dwn your throat and make you chok on it!enoaaa nono 🙂
hehehe you made me laugh. Cut it and fry it and give it to him to eat silly men
loool chichinga
you said it all hun..men think they r shatta´s bcs they´ve slept with soo many women,not knowing they are the ´´men whooores´ in this case..i always laugh when a guy starts to back up and change his mind when he finds out that the girl he´s interested in has slept with mayb 8-12 guys,then thinks she´s no good looool!!pathetic…as for me,if i tell you the truth and u cant handle it,fine!walk away after all you are not the only man in this world..are you?..and if you have the nerve to call me any nasty name,i´ll just cut off your manhood,shove it dwn your throat and make you chok on it!enoaaa nono 🙂
hehehe you made me laugh. Cut it and fry it and give it to him to eat silly men
loool chichinga
And this is the problem we have today..Two wrongs don’t make a right..But if she wants to keep banging the fellas,she should go right ahead…Her choice.lemme get into this..She’s telling men who may be ‘lucky’ to be reading this article ‘the hard truth’ tabout how they get played. She’s bringing this western pop cultural’ attitude.. As i said before,two wrongs don’t make a right..the fact that a man is sleeping around doesn’t mean you should too..what are you trying to prove?If she wants to ‘use’ men,she should go ahead..It baffles me how some women think like this.She can have all the ‘fun’ she wants and act as if she doesn’t care.
I always say you should match your expectations with reality…Men who sleep around are considered heroes,but women who do are labelled prostitutes is the prevailing attitude.It is not right, but that is the REALITY OF THE SITUATION. A man whore can decide to change and wife up a woman, and society will be more willing to forgive him than a woman who has been around the block. It is not fair ,but that is the way it is.As i always say..DO WHAT YOU WANT..but be prepared for the consequences. Also this girl needs to think ahead. She may not care about what people think of her now,but when she wants to get serious with a guy down the track and a) all what the guys are offering her is sex and b) Everyone knows her track record, then she’ll really see that things are not fair.
who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the awkward
gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think they are
always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time – See more
at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
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men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the
awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think
they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time –
See more at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
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men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the
awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think
they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time –
See more at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
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men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the
awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think
they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time –
See more at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
And this is the problem we have today..Two wrongs don’t make a right..But if she wants to keep banging the fellas,she should go right ahead…Her choice.lemme get into this..She’s telling men who may be ‘lucky’ to be reading this article ‘the hard truth’ tabout how they get played. She’s bringing this western pop cultural’ attitude.. As i said before,two wrongs don’t make a right..the fact that a man is sleeping around doesn’t mean you should too..what are you trying to prove?If she wants to ‘use’ men,she should go ahead..It baffles me how some women think like this.She can have all the ‘fun’ she wants and act as if she doesn’t care.
I always say you should match your expectations with reality…Men who sleep around are considered heroes,but women who do are labelled prostitutes is the prevailing attitude.It is not right, but that is the REALITY OF THE SITUATION. A man whore can decide to change and wife up a woman, and society will be more willing to forgive him than a woman who has been around the block. It is not fair ,but that is the way it is.As i always say..DO WHAT YOU WANT..but be prepared for the consequences. Also this girl needs to think ahead. She may not care about what people think of her now,but when she wants to get serious with a guy down the track and a) all what the guys are offering her is sex and b) Everyone knows her track record, then she’ll really see that things are not fair.
who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the awkward
gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think they are
always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time – See more
at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
the
men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the
awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think
they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time –
See more at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
the
men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the
awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think
they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time –
See more at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
the
men who may be lucky to be reading me the hard truth, albeit the
awkward gospel, which many women do not tell them, making the men think
they are always the winners—when in fact, they get used all the time –
See more at:
http://www.ghanacelebrities.com/2014/10/11/slept-15-women-damn-hero-just-imagined-tagged-prostitute/#sthash.K3ZTrhyd.dpuf
Wow. Akosua, I so love you right now.U couldnt have put it any better. i can perfectly relate to this. We should be friends cos u will get me better than my present group of friends do. Men fail to realise that, sometimes, its just about the s*x for us too. I can’t stand how a man feels like he used a woman when she chose him primarily to use him. But then, they apparently need to feel like they won to boost their egos. Its funny how they feel u r in love with them while they r only playing u, when in truth, u r only doing what they hope for in exchange for what u want in the first place.
Wow. Akosua, I so love you right now.U couldnt have put it any better. i can perfectly relate to this. We should be friends cos u will get me better than my present group of friends do. Men fail to realise that, sometimes, its just about the s*x for us too. I can’t stand how a man feels like he used a woman when she chose him primarily to use him. But then, they apparently need to feel like they won to boost their egos. Its funny how they feel u r in love with them while they r only playing u, when in truth, u r only doing what they hope for in exchange for what u want in the first place.
Good s*x is like taking in multivitamin, I really don’t see why woman are always judged wrongly when it comes to how many times we have s*x who we do it with, s*x is s*x as a matter of fact there soo many health benefit to it, instead of worrying about.how people would judge based on the number of.time i F*ck, I rather learn more Ways to get it downnn and hottt to spice my s*x life.
Good s*x is like taking in multivitamin, I really don’t see why woman are always judged wrongly when it comes to how many times we have s*x who we do it with, s*x is s*x as a matter of fact there soo many health benefit to it, instead of worrying about.how people would judge based on the number of.time i F*ck, I rather learn more Ways to get it downnn and hottt to spice my s*x life.