Dear GC Readers,
I hope to get some good advice from my fellow readers of this website as I am totally a confused man and if I dare mention any of this to my friends, I will become a laughing stock. I have learnt my lesson the hard way so with this opportunity of being anonymous, I want to tell my story and wait for the advice I can obtain from other generous readers.
I am 29 year old Ghanaian living in NJ, USA and my girlfriend is 25. I think it is better to refer to her as EX since I’ve not decided on what to do yet.
I caught my girlfriend 2 years ago cheating with her Ex boyfriend who used to beat her and even broke her nose when they were together. It broke my heart then but she pleaded and pleader. Her mother called me from Ghana and all her sisters called to beg. She said it was her first and last so since I loved her, I decided to give her another chance.
Just a year after coming back together and doing everything I can to support her, I pay her phone bills and help with her rent since she does not have a regular job, I found out she has been sleeping with my friend.
I am disappointed with my friend as much as anything but when it comes to this girl, I am hurt. How could she do this to me? According to her, they have just slept together 4 times and I don’t even know if I should believe that.
I couldn’t take this the first few days of last month when it happened so I stopped even picking her calls. She came to my work place several times so I agreed to picking her calls. Now she says I should give her a third chance and she swears on her dead father that she will never hurt me again.
I love her but I am totally confused and depressed. I don’t mind giving her another chance but what I mind and what I am worried about is, she may cheat again on me.
Please what should I do?
From: S. A./ USA
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Hello Mr, if i cheat on you and you forgive me twice, i won’t mind doing it again because i know i will be forgiven when i plead and beg and cry. If i really want to be with you, i will take the pain you felt the first time you caught me into consideration and desist from doing it again. The reason why you love her is because you think because she begs for forgiveness, she’s in love with you. Forgive her, she will call you stupid and keep doing that because she will say to herself, oh the silly boy will forgive me because he loves me ‘crazily’. At your age you shouldn’t be tolerating this kind of behaviour because when you get used to her cheating, you’ll never trust again and it will affect your relationships through and through. Let her be cos she seems like someone who will prefer an open relationship – that is what she keeps ‘saying’.
exactly
Dude, she cheated on you twice already and you are still thinking of giving her another chance? The truth of the matter is, she will do it again and again and again. No matter how deep you love her, run away from her. It’s obvious she is taking you for granted.
Mr have you heard about once a cheat is always a cheat? Let me tell you about us women.When do something and we get our way, most times we will repeat it. This girl doesnt love you else why will she keep doing this to you? Cheating with her ex seems like something a lot of people do but she has no morals or anything to cheat with your own friend. Run away or next she will be cheating with your father. Leave her sorry ass
lool..very true dear
No third chance. Just move on with ur life. If someone loves u, cheating on u will be a hard to do option.
You are the biggest fool on the planet to even think about this. Why waste energy and time thinking about even taking this girl back. You are an idiot. This made me sad to think such numb individuals like you still exist. Can’t you see she’s a sex addict,she can’t control her urges. There are many self respecting girls out there. Why waste your time on this trash. Foolish donkey. smh.
ohh easy on him please
I live in nj and single. No one deserve that kind of treatment. I went through the same thing with my ex. It took me a long time to get over him but i did. Good luck to you n i know you will be find.
Eii so should he contact you? Maybe the two of you can hook up. Chris this could be a GC wedding lol
hahahaha this will be so perfect a history in a making for GC kraaa yaya please link with the brother.
Luv matters dia i no wan talk some oo.lol
Stay away from this girl before She takes U to a place of no return.why don’t U thank God for giving U all of these signs even before putting a ring on it?what do u want to experience before U learn ur lesson?
Do u realize this is her second time of cheating and the probability of her repeating it Is high?
Ur friends would never have respect for you If you decide to be with her & U can never feel secured.She has no self respect and U can’t change that.
If you pay her bills and give her everything she needs,why would she still have a reason not to stay faithful?
Ones bitten,Twice Shy;take note Sir.
Hello mr poster, please leave this girl be and focus on yourself cos she doesn’t love you and she never will! It’s unfortunate most girls treat good men so bad by taking them for granted and this is what’s happening here. Word of advice: before you dump this girl, first of you need to start distancing yourself from her emotionally. when she calls, answer but limit the conversation you have with her and I suggest you stop paying for her phone bills and her rent and just limit the time and money you spend on her. Punish her emotionally and she’ll come running back to you and then after you dump her ok. She’ll regret the day she started cheating on you lol. It will be hard to get over her cos you love her but try and don’t waste your love on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
The point is love should be mutual, the moment it becomes one sided there is nothing as love between the two people. My brother, love is not a feeling as we usually think, it is something we decide to do. You can decide to love somebody but if that person decides against it by her actions, there is little you can do. It is just like forcing a gift on somebody. It is obvious from her conduct that she does not love you so why waste precious gift on “swine” Please take a walk. Mind you, love is not the key to successful marriage but trust and it is obvious you can never trust this lady.
Bam!!!! Tell him again. Oooo..I don’t even know why he needs advice when the signs are so clear. .. Oh I get it..She makes him go gaga in the bedroom. . He refused to add that
Gentleman, leave her sorry a s s before she cheats with ur brother…
It seems you love this girl and wouldn’t mind giving her another chance…I don’t think what anyone say here matters. At least you’re human if you think you’re enjoying what is being done to you… The decision is all yours to make.. All the best wai
ones a cheat always a cheat. I don t want to say you were dam for giving her the second chance cos she is human and you love her. but to cheat again with a frend makes her a bitch . if you give her another chance she would cheat again and again. You deserve better. Move on honey.
This girl has problems. Just stay away or she’ll ruin your life
she is not good for u