‘I thought love will conquer her ways…but alas’ – it’s very easy to have that mentality but it’s only in novels and movies that love always wins. People throw the ‘love conquers all’ memory verse ignoring the reality that opposing values, faith, or priorities can often put a serious strain on relationships, which love just can’t overcome or conquer…considering what love means to an individual.
Many couples/partners believe in their heart of hearts that if there’s enough love between them, all problems will be conquered. But this wishful thinking often leads to heartbreak. Some people use that as an aid to help them forgive people who have wronged them – but what if the person keeps doing the same thing over and over? I think love is much more of paying lip-service than really being in love and some think it’s polite to say ‘I love you back’ to someone.
Abusive relationships in any forms: physical, mental, sexual, psychological, financial and in some cases persistent cheating. Every rough patch in a relationship has its circumstances, but to be constantly battered by a ‘loved one’ on a regular basis is not love, and no amount of love or wanting will ever change that. In fact to overlook such behaviours in relationship into marriages in the vague hope that one day things would be rosy and perfect would indeed be naive and foolish, regardless of how ‘perfect’ you may think things are.
The little silly things I will say love will conquer may be a big thing for someone else. In situations where we most desperately hope for love to fix a broken person, it cannot be our love that does the fixing, it must be their love that fixes themselves.
Does love really conquer all things…clearly NOT, it is very convenient to say that because in this day and age, the behaviour of some humans are (excuse me to say) worse than that of animals. Even in the so-called unconditional love, there is always a condition attached to it (even giving a reason why you love somebody is conditional in itself).
An ‘idealist’ will tell you love will conquer and overcome; a ‘realist’ will say it doesn’t but we all hate reality…don’t we? When loving (that goes for any type of relationship as well) causes you to hate yourself by settling for mistreatment, belittling, marginalisation, and/or abuse from them, it’s time to pump the brakes on the association. Some people know how to ‘love’ so much but don’t know how to walk when ‘deadly’ things cannot just be conquered by love. I know I can love you, and still walk away from you for my peace of mind.
We can comfortably evade reality but what we should not forget is; whilst closing a blind eye to the obvious, we cannot evade the consequences of the reality we completely ignored.