It was Christmas morning and I was desperate to find an excuse to leave work.
Usually my boss lets the marketing department go by the evening of 24th after the books have been balanced. But this year, something about a good account to be pulled in meant that we had to work on Christmas day—-and who were we to complain?
Somebody must have grumbled too loud, because he called us right away into a Cabal (Current account balance) meeting—-and stood in front of us with his middle age, dignified, corporate scowl.
He said “some of you think I am turning you into robots. But note that I am setting you up to be principled and stick with the most important things in life. What matters, what will pay the bills.
And I am here myself working with you because this is important! There was once a time I had to be in an important meeting while my wife was in labour giving birth to our first child. I made the right decision because that meeting was a life-changing one.
When I got to the hospital after the meeting, my wife had already had our baby alone. The doctor called me into his consulting room gave me a huge bill and a long lecture about how I should have stayed by my wife’s side instead.
So I looked at him long and hard and said, -Doctor, what if I had stayed by my wife and ended up unable to pay this huge bill before me, would that make you happier? Would that have made her labour easy? Or would it just have seemed proper? “
The room was quiet.
So he continued…”I would rather give you less time and more money to spend than too much time and no money. And if anyone dislikes that, you can find your way to another job. Are we clear?”
So if this man was your Husband, would you be happy with the time or would you prefer a man with more time but cannot afford to pay the high bills?
It definitely was clear to me as I picked up my bag and headed out to rush through last minute shopping for presents. Very right, I said to myself because come to think of it, I had once dated a guy with too much time on his hands.
In the beginning I thought it was really sweet to have so much attention from my partner but things got very frustrating when he could not pick up certain bills. When he had so much time on his hands he started getting all up in my business. And so, while my friends’ boyfriends were planning solid futures, mine was loitering and playing around with his boys and all things in skirt.
I am not saying dating a broke man is wrong, but I appreciate a man who is out there working for a future not sitting at home doing things that do not concern him because he has too much time. And honestly when a grown man cannot afford basic luxuries of life, he becomes a nuisance.
Love will not keep us all happy forever. There must be hunger and need to continually forge ahead and be better. So I do not know about others but me, myself? I definitely will prefer a man who is working really hard and getting the bills out of the way even if he does not spend enough time with me, instead of the one who will spend all day and all night everyday with me but be sitting on the couch drinking and watching football every second.
What is the use of the time together if it is spent worrying about bills and the future? No, a man with too much time is not for me.
A balance would be perfect but in the absence of that balance, I will stick with work and all the good it brings.
Eij this one di3 3den oh….hmmm money or time?….next comment pls
the bills should be paid so i prefer a busy guy who can get the bills paid!!
I prefer both…. A man need to help around the house and give his woman full attention too. So I prefer both.
we all prefer the money please. love is useless if you have nothing to eat