READERS’ MAIL: Never Leave Your Girlfriend For Any Body You See On TV | Not All That Glitters Is Gold-My BIGGEST Regret

Out of self respect, I would want to remain anonymous so I can say exactly what I’ve experienced and what is on my heart. And maybe, just maybe, my experience will be a lesson for some men out there…

I am a Ghanaian in my late 30s who owns an African shop out here in Maryland, USA. I cannot say I am greatly successful but I have enough to take care of myself and even waste some on certain not-so important things.

I had a 4 year relationship with a certain young Ghanaian woman out here. But even though things were not that amazing, it was not that bad.

As a shop owner, I spend a lot of time traveling and whenever I settle down, I watch a lot of African movies in my shop as I sell some of these movies.

This is how I developed an interest in a young rising Ghanaian actress, an interest which will later cost me thousands of dollars and end my 4-year relationship.

You may call me a fool and I think you have the right to do so because I behaved like one. After spotting this young woman in several movies, I contacted my friend-a movie producer in Ghana who promised to get me her number.

With constant pressure from me, my friend sent me this actress’ phone number and we started chatting. I was shocked to learn she was single. I told her about my not so happy relationship and she said, maybe she could make me happy.

After several calls and chats, I told her I was coming to see her in Ghana. Excitedly, she sent me a long list of the things she needed. Pushed by a strong will to impress her, I bought everything including certain things she did not even mention.

All this time, I was chasing the beauty and elegance I saw in her movies. She had sent me several great pictures, confirming she is really beautiful, the kind of woman every man will want to have by his side.

Without any proper excuse, I left my girlfriend over here in the States hanging, and got on Delta to Ghana. She could not meet me at the airport because she was on set shooting.

That evening, she came straight to my hotel. It was one long wait for me but eventually she showed up. Without paying much attention to me, she went straight into my bags to check on the things she asked me to buy for her.

We had agreed that she will spend the first 3 nights with me and that was the reason why I got the hotel. But she said, her friend was waiting for her to drop her so she will do so and return.

She went away to drop her friend, taking away all the things I got for her. Later, she called to say, it was too late and she was tired, so she will spend the night with her friend. I was heart broken but tomorrow was not far away so I went straight to bed.

It was more of hide and seek for the next few days, which meant that I had to extend my stay at the hotel. This actress kept telling me she was shooting and was even sleeping on set.

Eventually, she decided to come around that weekend. I told her I was at the hotel’s restaurant so she came straight there.

And it was when she sat directly in front of me that I realized;  movies and TVs give a total different impression. She did not look close to what I always saw in movies. I knew it was the same person but totally different in person.

I said to my self, ‘I think my girlfriend looks better than this even’. But it was a little too late. I had spent a lot to get to Ghana, stay at that expensive hotel and not to talk about the shopping.

To cut a long story short. The affair I hoped for with this actress totally disappeared. I don’t even think it started. It was as if someone had waked me up from a long dream.

Things are never what we see on TV.  When I spoke to my movie producer friend, he jokingly said; if things are just as you see, don’t you think most of these people would have been married by now?

I just got back to the USA few days ago, totally disappointed.  I won’t fall for anything on TV again. And you better watch out too, because not all that glitters is gold.

From: Anonymous