Out of self respect, I would want to remain anonymous so I can say exactly what I’ve experienced and what is on my heart. And maybe, just maybe, my experience will be a lesson for some men out there…
I am a Ghanaian in my late 30s who owns an African shop out here in Maryland, USA. I cannot say I am greatly successful but I have enough to take care of myself and even waste some on certain not-so important things.
I had a 4 year relationship with a certain young Ghanaian woman out here. But even though things were not that amazing, it was not that bad.
As a shop owner, I spend a lot of time traveling and whenever I settle down, I watch a lot of African movies in my shop as I sell some of these movies.
This is how I developed an interest in a young rising Ghanaian actress, an interest which will later cost me thousands of dollars and end my 4-year relationship.
You may call me a fool and I think you have the right to do so because I behaved like one. After spotting this young woman in several movies, I contacted my friend-a movie producer in Ghana who promised to get me her number.
With constant pressure from me, my friend sent me this actress’ phone number and we started chatting. I was shocked to learn she was single. I told her about my not so happy relationship and she said, maybe she could make me happy.
After several calls and chats, I told her I was coming to see her in Ghana. Excitedly, she sent me a long list of the things she needed. Pushed by a strong will to impress her, I bought everything including certain things she did not even mention.
All this time, I was chasing the beauty and elegance I saw in her movies. She had sent me several great pictures, confirming she is really beautiful, the kind of woman every man will want to have by his side.
Without any proper excuse, I left my girlfriend over here in the States hanging, and got on Delta to Ghana. She could not meet me at the airport because she was on set shooting.
That evening, she came straight to my hotel. It was one long wait for me but eventually she showed up. Without paying much attention to me, she went straight into my bags to check on the things she asked me to buy for her.
We had agreed that she will spend the first 3 nights with me and that was the reason why I got the hotel. But she said, her friend was waiting for her to drop her so she will do so and return.
She went away to drop her friend, taking away all the things I got for her. Later, she called to say, it was too late and she was tired, so she will spend the night with her friend. I was heart broken but tomorrow was not far away so I went straight to bed.
It was more of hide and seek for the next few days, which meant that I had to extend my stay at the hotel. This actress kept telling me she was shooting and was even sleeping on set.
Eventually, she decided to come around that weekend. I told her I was at the hotel’s restaurant so she came straight there.
And it was when she sat directly in front of me that I realized; movies and TVs give a total different impression. She did not look close to what I always saw in movies. I knew it was the same person but totally different in person.
I said to my self, ‘I think my girlfriend looks better than this even’. But it was a little too late. I had spent a lot to get to Ghana, stay at that expensive hotel and not to talk about the shopping.
To cut a long story short. The affair I hoped for with this actress totally disappeared. I don’t even think it started. It was as if someone had waked me up from a long dream.
Things are never what we see on TV. When I spoke to my movie producer friend, he jokingly said; if things are just as you see, don’t you think most of these people would have been married by now?
I just got back to the USA few days ago, totally disappointed. I won’t fall for anything on TV again. And you better watch out too, because not all that glitters is gold.
From: Anonymous
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Hhmmmm its gud u’ve learnt ur lesson. Jst pray ur gf 4gives u.
you need to leave the lesbian lifestyle and get yourself a real man ok sweety.
and who’s this actress? any guesses???
Chris, I think the writer wrote that he wants to remain anonymous, yet I see his name at the end. Did u forget to opt-out his name? Just asking!!!
Thanks for mentioning it. It escaped me. Boys Abr3 lol
@Chris-Vincent A. Febiri, No Worries!! 🙂
hmmmm , lol good u learn ur lesson now, hopefully ..lol
Chris,
It is too late. A lot of people saw the name already before you were made aware to change it to Anonymous. I actually who the person is now based on initial gaffe.
You got played Big Time.Why did you allow her to go through your luggage?You should never have given her all those things when she first came to your hotel room.She just used you.I know you have learnt your lesson.Not all that Glitters is Gold.Shame unto that girl,she deserves to be exposed.You are a disgrace to the Human Race.
NEXT TIME WO BE YE STEADY
MA TRICKY WO
ATTENTION! ATTENTION! ATTENTION! U see ple, i’m a person of my words, i don’t hide the truth…This story is abt ME but the writer whose real name is not here twisted the story n i believe this writer whom i’m gonna keep anonymous, i owns G.C n used Chris as camou owner…comes in here with diff fake names to comment…Just how stupid d ple think i am?! now this is the TRUTH… i was an independent writer in that Ghallywood, wrote couple of movies which starred Eckow smith, Tonto, ADjorlolo, Mercy Johnson, vicky zugah, Gloria Sarfo, Emmelia Brobbey, Jackie Appiah, n several others, some of my concepts were even stolen by so-called renowned stars,but tnk God they did nt get the ryt ”reason to…” was a complete flop compared to the most gallant script i’ve ever written which a renowned hollywood producer has in possession now with a better tittle, plz watch out for me, coz my God answers by love & positivity… i’m spinning, not joking…i chose one star as a favorite, prays for her elevation in career, n life, after five yrs, i eventually got to be friends with the star, i hardly make friends, yet not anti-social, just being careful cos of some heartbreaking story in my nuclear family, i trust nobody, i began to believe so much in this star, love this star so much so that, i made the star a god over God i guess…that my positive feeling of love became evil-lust, i mean. Yes, lust. i knew something was deviating my true purposed feeling, so i told the star i needed to stay away a bit…but it went against me coz i couldn’t stop that lustful feeling, then i confessed to the star, that i’m falling, yet i’m confused, abt it coz i knew it was not frm God…i was ashamed to even pray again, but i needed to fight it, coz that’s not what i really wanted…suddenly opened Holy book of Leviticus n it struck, that sick demonic obsessions out of my weakening soul with a rebuking text on similar issue…Pastor preached something similar in church the next sunday n i felt it was directly smashing @ me, i knew God was even much heartbroken abt my thoughtful guilt of immorality…lust for another female, shame on me! tnk God, it’s all ran away n i’m on my feet, normally going abt my daily routine free frm that entanglement…i never knew that could be a part of my history, but i never knew i was just human, God is the care taker, Im’ glad i overcame this temptation… i’m an ardent respecter & believer of Jesus n God, so even as i’m in my early 20s’ i’m still a proud greenland, i told rose, n now i’m telling u, n the world the actual truth on the ground…i make choices not chances so wen the destined tym is up, the ryt man will get a yes, n will definitely put the ring on…confession, my first ever crush was ramsey Nouah, then, ebenezer, a high school course mate, then this, a female…no, i’m not a lesbian! coz i’ve already debunk this by-force fate almost imposed on me frm the dark world…anyone who knos me well, knos, i Love, laugh a lot, joke, sing, dance, sometymz annoying but in a funny way… Honesty, is the air l breathe even if it goes against me…yes… i am also pursuing the dreams some ple inside Ghallywood wanted to shut…I am not naive to everything anyone did, the juju, the gossip, the mockers, downfall wishers, n what hv u, some of them, i still pray for wen i’m with my God, so nothing bad will b4 them…tho there some few obstacles in my life but i’m striving thru them n i’m doing amazingly well with Jesus on my side n the positive ”white American voices” saying directly to my face don’t let anything stop u” u can make it here with what u’ve got…something i can hardly hear frm the GH voices expt for one Special mother ”where there is a will, there is a way”…d u kno how many US celebs hv had an encounter with, without paying ticket to do so? It’s Gods Favour…Sorry, i do not kno the man called hypocrisy, but Mr. Truth… It’s been such a long tym someone truly angered me this way, but that’s ok. u r ryt, i’ve learnt my lesson…N ple, my user name is my real name, n i will repeat everything i said here on tv interview any day coz i’m not afraid of the truth…this actress, could be any one of the name above, u never kno…but, that’s not paramount… May God hv mercy on me, give me the heart to call my acquaintances here, in school, church, &, work friends n nt acquaintances, so no unacceptable deja vu like that will ever befall me again…i think i’ve got a novel to write base on this true fiasco experience…No one can shut me frm believing in Love with no strings attache, coz God is Love…i’m definitely going to bed with tears, hoping to wake up with my dreams for Gh fading into flowing rivers…if the love i gave in Israel will be repaid in strange land of Egypt, why nt? Oh. yes! i’ve learn’t my lessons. I still pray n wish, Ghallywood will reunite among themselves in peace, n together, they shall grow as one formidable tower of entertainment…not ruling out this, to be brainwashed, is not civilization, the fear of God is the beginning of Wisdom, n Wisdom is the secret to life & riches…God is always GREATER than the greatest, tnk u!
@patricia A. smith,, i have read all that u have written and frankly, i dont understand what u are trying to explain…its just words upon words…
@patricia A. smith,Please summarize what you wrote for us .Your whole piece is confusing.I have studied English to the highest level,but couldn’t make head and tail of what you wrote.
Nice and interesting story,but dude you just don’t buy things for a woman you’ve never even kissed before ,seriously I don’t do such thing I don’t even remember the last time I bought something for a woman just because I like her …am not stingy though.
Thank God you’ve learn from it and apologies to your girlfriend she dont deserve what you did
Why can’t we call BS when we see it? Dude your desire for sex got you exactly what you deserved. Had the girl slept with you, you would be the same person to write here and say that Ghanaian actress’ are cheap. In my opinion the girl was smart enough to see that clearly all you wanted was sex. What man leaves his woman for a lady he’s never met?? You really expected the girl to sleep with you the first night? How dumb are u? Infact the lady deserves an applause for using this guy who’s intention was clearly to just have a price of her. To all the me here, don’t blame women for ur stupidity.
I like what the producer-friend said, about actresses, at the end for the reason them not being married!!!!!
Y can’t my comment appear aden chris a blocki me anaa?
Well at least you learnt your lesson.
U ve no case @ all. So u wanted to dump ur 4 year old r/ship 4 a gh movie gal? It surely serves u right. Thank God u did nt meet some1 like me. I wld milk u dry n u ll still not taste the t)t)