Every one of us has in our possession a ticket liberating us from the cycle of good or bad relationship. But most of the time, we just do not know the right bus to board or the right bus stop to get down. The new norm for some marriages is constant shouting bouts, disappointments, broken promises, infidelity etc.
Some couples are struggling more and more each day to keep their marriage intact, while some others are seeking a way out of their messy marriage. Knowing what you want in your partner and in your marriage is the first step of having the marriage you desire; not just being a Mrs Somebody.
Family and societal pressures sometimes push people to accept the first charming/attractive person that comes their way. If you’re in a relationship and you intend to go the long way with person, there are some red flags/signs to look out for to either stay or bolt before it’s too late. (It does not apply if you’re in there just for the sake of being somewhere)
Time To Run!…?
Controlling and Isolating Attitude: This is a clear sign of an abusive person. If you find yourself being controlled and isolated from your friends and family, but pressured to report your whereabouts at all times….red flag. They don’t abuse physically (most of the time), but psychologically or emotionally, including being pressured to do things, socially or sexually, that you don’t want to do.
Sometimes it might appear as the person is caring but they’re really suffocating you. They are often the types you lose yourself when with them; run fast!
Over Charming (mostly in looks) or smooth talking: Not to say, it’s cool to go for the ‘fearful and ugly’ but guys (let’s say some) who are charming have a ‘thing’ about them. The smooth talkers love to completely dazzle women. Every lady they see is the most beautiful woman they’ve ever come across. Every woman is sexy. Yes, ladies love to hear how funny, beautiful, and amazing they are, but if overly done then it becomes a bit sketchy.
He eats, drinks, sleeps and walk lies: Do I need to elaborate….
His lack of empathy: Does the guy seem to have absolutely no emotions? Does he lack a lot of sympathy and empathy with no sense of remorse? He doesn’t care about right or wrong, with you, or in any aspect of life. These are natural emotions and if he seems not to have them, this is a true sign you are dating the wrong person.
The ‘commitment phobia’ type: They fear commitment so much. They tremble at that word. They just don’t want to be tied down, but enjoy flirting, dating, and leading many women on. If his past adds up to him being in and out of both short and sometimes long term relationships; RUN!
He isn’t looking for anything serious. The commitment-shy guys unfortunately have a quality any woman will wish for in a man; they’re very kind and that is the bait they use to make a woman hang on to them for as long as he wishes. (Unless of course, you’re also not ready to commit, it’s not a bad idea to partake in his kindness). There is no harm in hoping that you may be his stepping stone to change; but watch the word…Hope.
The Miser/Stingy/‘I don’t want to spoil you type’: A kind person is one who will give even if he has little. Waiting to have ‘plenty’ before a person can give is tantamount to the person being stingy. Simple…
The smart ones use ‘I don’t want to spoil you’ anthem to hide their stinginess. This type will spend less if he marries you….he may even ration food. Yes Guys! Its reality; if you cannot buy little, little things in the name of ‘I don’t want to spoil you,’ you’re a miser/stingy!
Last but not the least –
The type who has either promised many ladies marriage or has led many women to think he’ll settle with them: The dangerous of all. This type of guy has led so many girls on into thinking he’ll marry them and either drop them and move on to the next person or lead them on. When he decides/is ready to settle down, he put all the women in one hat and pick a winner….and if by ‘chance’ he does settle with you (literally speaking) …just be prepared for a big fight.
All the ladies ‘whose time has been wasted’ and still hanging on will give you a hard time. If you’re lucky enough and the tigresses and lionesses among them have moved on…hey freedom. But if they’re still girlfriends, be prepared for war. If still interested, be prepared to dwell in the house of stress, depression, heartache, problems or giving up the marriage altogether – maybe forever and forever…Don’t say Amen to that because it’s not going to be pleasant. If you’re prepared to fight back, the world is your oyster, if not, carry your slim, fat or chunky legs and bolt as fast as you can before you’re tempted to say ‘I do’.
***The thing is, men often DO know when they’ve met their “one.” (Even though it’s often hard to tell by the way they act and talk) but why they keep on fishing…only they know why***
Yes of course, there are also women to run away from…..