Do not call it a thing of the past because I have one happening right now under my nose, and it is sad to see my friend going through hell all because her boyfriend is a Muslim.
For some reason, most of us put religion, race, ethnicity and nationality before anything else in life—including; placing these things before the fact that we are human beings first and any other thing is secondary.
I know more than enough people who could not marry because they are from different countries or ethnic backgrounds. And the fact that they so much love each other and are happy together did not matter to their parents/families.
For the families, the LOVE of the two is not important and equally their happiness does not matter. What really matters is what their community or friends will think about their own marrying an ‘outcast’.
I thought the times when parents picked wives and husbands for their children was long gone, giving way to a new era where people can marry whoever makes them happy—even if that person is from Mars.
But then, I was pretty much deceiving myself to think the chains that held such beliefs together were broken.
Must religion, nationality and ethnicity take dominance over the true feelings of young couples, their love, their happiness and future?
What has your experience been or have you in recent times come across this issue?
Do you know anyone who had to face this or had to let go a relationship because the family were against it on the grounds of religion, ethnicity or nationality?
Let’s get talking!
Yh,it’s really sad wen u have to put an end to a relationship just because of the other person’s religion,nationality,race and so on,but speaking of religion,why shud someone convert to the partner’s religion before marriage? I do not have any problem with marrying a Muslem for instance,but my fear is having to convert to a religion I have no interest in just to get married.
It takes two to let whatever will happen between them happen. At the same time, we individually change our minds sometimes rending the agreement void. I am a christian, I choose to marry a christian too meaning that I am not even willing to date anybody else apart from a christian. That person also has a right to decide what they want… so if you date someone and you have to break up, it is your problem.. YOU DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT, YOU STICK WITH IT… IF YOU WANT OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS BEFORE YOU MARRY, SEEK IT EVEN WHEN YOU STARTED THE RELATIONSHIP NOT THAT YOU DO YOUR OWN THING AND THEN LATER YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO THEM… DECIDE NOW WHAT YOU REALLY WANT — YOUR PARENTS OPINION FROM THE SCRATCH OR YOUR OWN OPINION TILL THE END.. DON’T DO HALF HALF…. THAT IS THE DANGER!!!!!