Dear Chris-Vincent,
This rising movement is making me uncomfortable as a young black woman and until my sisters begin to see it too, we will lose the best of our black men to the white race.
I do not want to mention names but it seems that, the moment a black brother hits a fortune or wakes up in the pool of success, the next thing he has to do is find himself a white woman.
Mostly, these white women were not part of his struggles. It was the poor black woman he has sworn not to ever see that held his broke azz together…
If you’ve also realized this happening around you or even from reading about it in the media, then we are on the same wavelength.
As a young black woman living in a country full of white women, should I be worried that my boyfriend whom I am struggling with today will also meet success and drop me like a coin for the next available white girl?
Call me paranoid but at least I am confronting my fears and seeking to understand a popular occurrence.
For about 5 weeks now, I’ve been asking my black African friends in University why it seems like the moment a black brother hits a jackpot, he must go straight in for a white girl.
The ultimate question has been; don’t we the black sisters also deserve to be with successful black men?
From what most of my friends told me, I think we are going to see more of the above happening unless we change our attitude towards life as black women…
The common answer I got is; why would anyone go in for the FAKE or COUNTERFEIT when the original is just sitting next door?
Initially I got offended but when I poked for further explanation, I realized they sort of have a point, and a good point for that matter.
Majority of my black male friends think that, most black women of today want to be everything except being black.
We spend large sums of money trying to be white—-wearing long weaves/wigs, bleaching/toning our skins, wearing blue contact lens, wearing blonde hair, forcing ourselves to speak in alien accents among other things.
‘So why would a brother go in for the fake when the original is at sight?’ one of my friends asked. I wish I could have given him an answered.
Who will want to spend time and money on a woman who wants to be like another person when he can just get the actual person?
Black sisters deserve to be with successful black men (Hell Yeah) but not until we begin to embrace and celebrate who we are without forcing and spending thousands to be the other woman.
From Jocelyn Afia Amoateng/ New York/USA
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