Dear GC Readers,
I am utterly upset and confused as I thought I was doing all he wanted. Men are just mischievous, rude and piss takers.
I am a very beautiful girl (at least everyone I meet say so). After I broke up with my ex due to the fact that he relocated from USA to Ghana, I started talking to a guy on facebook.
He showered me with gifts and almost each week, I had a flower through the post. We spoke for long hours on the phone each night and sometimes, I had to even cancel my early morning shifts because I have been on the phone all night.
Just after a month of vigorous communication, I fell in love or almost fell in love and agreed to spend the weekend at his place since he lived out of town.
When I got there, he was all over me with kisses and touches. The moment he picked me from the Airport, it turned in touching.
I knew he wanted to make love with me and since I sort of loved him, I wanted to make him happy so I allowed him to sleep with me.
After having his way, he started ignoring me and that was just few hours after we slept together. The weekend I spent with him was horrible. He spent more time on the phone with his mates than he talked to me.
I left his place totally upset and I am still upset. He says I am too cheap for him (not openly but indirectly) because he was just trying to see how I am and I easily allowed him to have his way.
What the heck? He pressured me and started it all.
What should I do now? Does this make a woman cheap? What about the man?
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Just move on darling, at least you’ve learned your lesson, I’m so sorry it was the hard way, but such is life. He’s not just worth it.
My dear you’re better off without that loser. Trust me, you dodged a bullet by not marrying this guy. A guy who can do that to you doesn’t respect women & his future wife will go through hell if he doesn’t change his ways. It may not be easy, but please try to forget about him & move on. Concentrate on your career & find people who truly care about you (friends, church members etc.) to confide in when you’re feeling down. You’ll definitely find the man meant for you & he’ll treat you like a queen. Please my only advice for you is that from now on, when you meet a man, give him a long time to prove himself to you before you sleep with him. Sometimes, you need sometime to determine whether the man is serious about you, whether he can be trusted & so on. All the best.
@Sandy, so true! Couldnt have said it better..
Dont ever gve in on d first date unless u want a fling urself..
1e of all you sound confused and stupid your ex relocated to Ghana, you than went on Facebook and met a guy who started sending you flowers and gifts less than a month “are you a learner” why did you give your address in the first place?
You than “fell in love or almost fell in love and agreed to spend the weekend at his place since he lived out of town. When I got there, he was all over me with kisses and touches. The moment he picked me from the Airport, it turned in touching.” I knew he wanted to make love with me and since I sort of loved him, I wanted to make him happy so I allowed him to sleep with me.” All this on a first date didn’t you realise you have him the opportunity to use you all the way
Cause less than a month you both had vigorous communication but yet you forget to find out the kind of training, moral examples & social influences the guy received in early childhood about women’s roles my advise to you is If you want a lasting relationship, don’t let the first attraction be a physical one. The physical side should develop over several months. Lasting relationships are based on the person, not the way they look or lust after you. You can blame him as much as you want but you made a big mistake as well, some of us men are just build that way I call them (predators) cause that’s what they do going on social media hunting innocent girls
@Miyagi Atopahene, U know there is something strange about girls sometimes & I perfectly understand y u sound like this. Reading from the article u can actually tell the girl knew Something was wrong but She was so hopeful thinking it will change.We girls ve a hard time facing the fact.so what if this guy u did this with probably knew ur sex and was a set up?hmm..anyway there is nothing u can do about it.its already happened.
stupid girl. You should stay off men for your own good till you mature.
This never made the girl cheap so just stop the insults. The guy is just ungrateful and a player. This is one thing i hate about we guys; if on our first proposal or date and the girl agree to us then we think is our sugar-coated words that leads to that or think the girl is just cheap. Sorry girl leave him and move on.
First off all technology is not a relationship.. Seeing ur partner almost daily is a relationship! He may have had a 100 other girls he was hooking up with.. And u fell right into his web.. Its SAD but true.. Beauty is no protection 4 getting played doll.. Hope u learned something from this experience.. Good Luck.. Love will come in the right time, dont rush take it slow.. Their are a lot of zeros out there.. but trust me their are plenty of heros 2 😉 ive met a few.. Their is HOPE!
Won’t be surprised if they both met on facebook. Cheap azz girl, thinking he was all into you after flying down to meet him. Well at least you should thank your God he stayed out same night without deceiving you. Learn to close your legs next time, real men will wait till a day or two before touching you… even that you have every right to decline and foreplay till your next visit. Learn to close that flesh of yours before they continue to hurt you.
One thing about girls is,we feel sex is love but to men am sorry but it ain’t the same.Girl, the answer is right in yr face.Dude’s mission was to use and dump u.He had a time frame & he achieved it perfectly.it.Accept it and move on.