A father I believe is one to take care of your physical, emotional, psychological needs, one that needs to be there and protect you from harm and also train you to be a productive and fruitful person throughout your life on earth, and that does NOT include taking care of my sexual needs.
There’re some things you read and hear about some fathers and it makes you wonder if the wires are connected properly in the brain. What on earth will push a man to forcibly demand sex from his own biological daughter, before he will perform his fatherly duties?
Before and now, you’ll only hear of man demanding sex from his house help because the girl is from a poor background or an orphan, but when it graduates to cases of fathers demanding sex from their biological daughters – the country is in trouble.
Children should under no circumstances bear the brunt of a broken home, but unfortunately, they feel the heat more than the two adults who decided to part ways. Most of these cases even occur when the parents are still married and living under the same roof. If you want a woman to satisfy your sexual needs, grab another one and not your child…
A recent investigation carried out by a paper in Ghana really makes it painful to read.
The investigations proved that most fathers take advantage of the absence of their divorced wives to forcefully attempt and in some cases succeed in having an affair with the daughters, a development that has led many of the victims to flee their homes. A case in point was a young lady (name withheld) who traced her father to Nungua in an attempt to help her to further her education, but had her father constantly forcing to have sex with her.
One of the victim explained that, the parents have divorced for over six years and she has since been living with the mother at a village near Koforidua in the Eastern region, adding “when I completed Senior High School, my mother took me to my father to also see to my needs and pay for my further education.”
It looked like a tale from a movie when the traumatized young lady said the father, instead of playing the role as required of a responsible father, on numerous occasions attempted to have sex with her under the pretext of taking good care of her, adding “in one of his attempts, he nearly succeeded; he pounced on me one night, threatening me if I don’t allow him to have sex with me… he forced his hand over my mouth but I managed to push him aside and run away.”
Another victim who suffered the same ordeal said, she travelled from the Central region to Accra to her father after the mother had single- handedly saw her through secondary school for him to help her continue my education or learn a trade, “instead of my father helping me, he gave me an option to either sleep with him to get what I want or I leave him alone.”
In all of the cases during the investigation, the victims had left their various houses and are either idling on the streets, or living with close friends or boyfriends because the callous fathers out of anger threw their daughters out of the house for refusing to yield to their demands, a development that has led to many of the young women roaming the street in search of where to lay their heads.
In most cases, the poor victims of incest are too frightened to come out and talk about their ordeals especially where they live under the same roof with their fathers with no motherly figure around. Some of them also feel too ashamed to reveal their torments to their mothers or any close relations let alone to the law enforcement agencies.