Apart from the below reasons which the survey found as making people feel jealous and miserable on facebook, I have always told my friends that Facebook allows people to live fairy tale lives and such, they should never feel bad about themselves because of some friends’ photos and messages.
A lot of Facebook users take hundreds of photos and carefully select the flawless ones to upload to their pages. Most people do not upload photos of their bad days but when they get the chance to have a holiday, they will upload several photos of themselves having fun.
If you are a friend who is having a horrible time in life, you may be forced to get jealous when in fact, your friend is just like you. But he/she is just playing on your mind…
People need to realize that, it is hard everywhere and it is hard for everyone. No where is cool. However, majority of people’s Facebook users show they are living the life you see as fairy tale. This can make you hate yourself and circumstance. The truth is that, they hate things as much as you do too, they are just using facebook to cover their sorrow days…
Anyway, read below for more
Facebook can make you feel socially isolated and miserable because seeing friends’ happy pictures triggers feelings of envy, two studies have found.
Academics claim one in three people feel worse after visiting the site and that their ‘general dissatisfaction’ with life had increased.
German researchers from two universities studied 600 people and found that those who browsed without contributing were more likely to feel bad afterwards.
Positive images of friends enjoying holidays, commenting on their happy lives or simply posting pet pictures was enough to trigger feelings of jealousy, experts from Berlin’s Humboldt University and Darmstadt’s Technical University found.
The Facebook test group said what riled them most were happy holiday snaps of ‘Facebook friends’ followed by gushing prose of fabulous lives, great jobs and cracking social diaries.
The academics said people who surfed a lot on such sites were in danger of becoming socially isolated and depressed.
Which poses a conundrum the academics have not yet been able to answer: are lonely people drawn to social networks in a bid to come out of themselves or merely to cement their isolation?
Researchers said those who were most unhappy and dissatisfied tended to be those who did not get involved, just choosing to read posts or click on to photos.
Thirty percent of the 600 people who took part in two studies cited envy as the main source of their Facebook unhappiness while 36 percent said they were ‘sometimes’ or ‘very often’ frustrated after going on Facebook.
Hanna Krasnova of Humboldt University said; ‘We have scientifically demonstrated that online networks provided access to lots of positive news and profiles from successful ‘friends’ that trigger jealousy.’
One example of a study participant feeling down was because a site friend had received more birthday greetings than she had.
‘Success, talents and possessions lead to reactions of envy,’ said the researchers.
‘Everyone who is posting is always trying to depict themselves as well as possible and therefore the posts are predominantly positive.’
Facebook friends, said the boffins, are using the site as a measure of their own success and popularity – but people are overestimating the happiness of others just by what they read, thus crafting a perfect envy base.
‘Envy can proliferate in social networks and be intensified through passive tracking,” the researchers write.
But it’s not all bad; other studies claim Facebook users can feel ‘understood’ and ‘connected with others’ through the site.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS POST, I JUST NEEDED TO HEAR SOMETHINK LIKE THAT. I HAVE DIFFICULTS TIMES AND ALWAYS SEE MY FRIENDS FACEBOOKS PAGES. THAT’S MAKES ME SOOO BAD BECAUSE I THOUGHT”MY GOD, THEY HAVE SUCCEED AND ARE BETTER THAN BEFORE WHILE I AM MISERABLE AND JUST HAVE BAD TIMES” soo THANK YOU FOR THIS POST
This is very true.Sometimes u see some of ur friend’s pages and u think to urself damn where have I been in this world??But u remember there is no absolute finish line in this world.So u just keep moving forward.
THIS IS SOOO TRUE! AM NOT À FACEBOOKER BUT ONCE À WHILE I CREATE TEMPORAL ACCOUNT TO SEARCH FOR MY “EX” IT MAKES ME SO JEALOUS AND ANGRY EVEN THOUGH IVE GOTTEN OVER HIM AND MOVED ON. I DECIDED TO STOP FACBOOKING SINCE IT WASNT DOING ME ANY GOOD. I WAS RATHER HURTING MY SELF. HOW STUPID OF ME
@KA NE WU, LOOOL!KANEWU, Sweet Memoriessss….hahhahaha…wukaikai eni3mabiii..I can understand you thou.
Oh tsaly! Lol @Adjoa Nbaaso),
Am an addicted “facebooker” but i dont remember ever feeling miserable or jealous after “facebooking”. Having said that, i cant disagree with the survey though b’cos people have their own reasons for being on facebook.
Gosh I hate the social sciences.
@dove, umm u mean social sites/websites ryt?
@Nelia, Nope I really mean social sciences, in reference to the study. *awks*
Lol i love fb rather… no bad feelings yet.