This has always been a big issue with the guys who come around her, it comes up all the time, some of them just disappear when they hear there will be no banging without even trying to find out more about her persona and the ones who want to stay around do not stir up any emotions in her.
She finally found a guy who claimed to love her three years ago. Their relationship has been what I would describe as a joke. He keeps leaving her and coming back and she still takes him back every time. However, he recently told her that if she didn’t give him sex he would find it elsewhere.
GhanaCelebrities.Com, my cousin is desperate. She does not know what to do. It seems that she is not prepared to lose this guy but, she also craves true love.
As for banging outside of marriage, that is a total NO NO for her. Now the guy had promised to marry her so she fears that she may lose the opportunity to finally keep a man.
What should she do? What would you do if you found yourself in this dilemma? Should she give in?
nooooo.my dear lady never give your virginity to save any relationship. if a Guy says he loves you n want to marry you he should be able to understand you when it comes to keeping of virginity. let’s all think about the kingdom of God first .
@Abigail, i totally agree with you
@Abigail, exactly God’s temple first than any asshole… good one
I found myself in the same situation..but i found this link which gave me a lot of inspiration.
i think you will find the answer in this link. A lot of reading but it worth it..
http://www.waadzimah.com/2012/02/single-and-searching.html
@Amele,Thanks for the website. lol i know you gave it to someone but i also learnt a lot from it.. thx dear.
Well I’m not surprise some girls even give up their Virginia just to own a blackberry so I don’t think saving their relationship would be a big deal
@Dr. Miyagi, eiii. serious.
but this is nonsensical, this girl shd go ask her mother this question and see the salp she will receive. how can you even think of that?
but chris too we are tired of the story story . everyday relationship matter. is this now maame dokunu or akosua agyapong show?
Things some girls to for things I mean your still young got your whole life to life and they are there spreading their legs for materiallistic things or fake love that don’t excist at all@kwashiokor girl,
girl please if he claims he loves you and wants to marry you he will wait till he puts a ring on it, dont give it up now, he is not the perfect will of God for you and dont try to get a man your self, in Gods own time he will bring you that gentle man.
Please don’t give your virginity up for any guy as the Bible condems pre marital sex.Fornication is not only a sin against God but a sin against your body.God in his own time will find you a perfect match who will accept you for who you are.
@LEROAT, i like your advise.!
@LEROAT, ABIGAIL, i am with girls; BIBLE FIRST, MARRIAGE then Sex
@nana aba, that is good. love that
I am loving GC readers on this particular story (both gentlemen & ladies) for their awesome and super nupa advise they are giving!! my dear sister in that dilema, first of all it shdnt be a dilema at all, be happy and always remember your God and all that my fantastic friends here are saying cos THEY HAVE SAID IT ALL!!
my sister even though it is soo hard right now for u and i know how you feel, listen to me pleaseeeeeeeeee, i will tell u to keep your virginity, then it is wealth it than to loose it to a guy. Stay single forever than to loose to a man becos of love or marriage. You are not even sure if he will really marry u, he says he will though but nobody knows the future. He might die or better still live before the marriage but that is not a garantee my dear. Please i beg u in the name of God you will so regret if u sleep with him. have a strong mind like crazy, show no fear, Sex is not the solution but prayers. Do not be afraid .You fear no one will come ask your hand in marriage right? just trust God. You will never get peace if you sleep with him since you do believe in sex after marriage. You will soooooooooo regret if u do it, u will so wish u can change time but it will be too late…MY sis just listen to me ok, dont SLEEP WITH HIM. I want you to be strong, tell him what you believe ,he should n must respect it. If not let him choose to stay or live. prove u r strong even though u r not. please my dear i warn u. i know what i am talking about. please listen k. just trust God n fear only him but not man.This life is unfair n only the fit, brave n strong can survive it. God be with u.
Eii, Guys of today will face God someday papa.Ahhh, Most of them put girls into certain situation and deep down their hearts they def. know its wrong, yet still they pretend and act like its alright.But I dnt blame them alone , some girls of today have also cheapen themselves too much.Anyway, Girl, there is no point for u to give up ur virginity for that fool.Its not guaranteed he will stay..True love has no conditions.Let him go, and just like He thinks there are so many girls out there, u also pray to God to find the right one. After all, God knows his OWN.
Nice speech, but has God answered your prayers already better yet have you find mr right yet a@Adjoa Nbaaso),
@Dr.Miyagi, yes my dear.He has.How about u?Has he given u Eno gynecologist yet?
Lol well he has yeah she is the most precious, smart beautiful and intelligent lady really down to earth we more like soulmates and almost got allot of things in common what would I have done withouth her I thank God for given me her even though she can be stubborn sometimes, @Adjoa Nbaaso),
@Dr.Miyagi, Dear Lord, someday I want my man to proud of me just like Miyagi is abt her Lady.amen.
*HIS Lady* @s3m3nhyia,
Lol I’m sure you will just don’t rush into it @s3m3nhyia,
Just remember woman wants a man that’s LOVING! Strong but not overbearing Ambitious but not greedy A leader, not a dictator feel me@s3m3nhyia,
@s3m3nhyia, Dr miyagi us just saying what is untrue. forget him ooooo
@Dr.Miyagi, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. keep it to yourself
@Abigail, Envy is not a good thing oh! why do women hate women? In this day and age when most Men are treating women badly,shouldnt you be happy reading that a man is praising his Lady for the whole world to see? Women oh dabi dabi.
Don’t mind her I can see that she got issues with man@S3m3nhyia,
@Dr.Miyagi, yea you got it
?@Abigail,
@Abigail,I’m saying what is not true so you know me or my partner at all do you run my love life?
My dear, ‘the tin’ is really sweet so stop complaining, ‘gogo wo ho’ and have a nice time! lol. Abi you yourself you want to try ‘the tin’ that’s why you’re confused erh? so stop worrying, relax and enjoy the ride. heheehee
@Sweetie, what thing are you talking about sweetie?be bold and who even told you i want to try it. i won’t till the ring is on ooooo
@ Abigail, hahaaahaa, i’m talking about ‘the thing’ lol. Eiii, are you sure you don’t want to try it? Hmmm, in that case make sure that you learn fast how to do it when you marry so that an ‘experienced woman’ doesnt snatch your man away with good sex o! lol
@Sweetie, good advice up there but won’t be taken
Sex is worth waiting for…any guy dat cant wait until u r legally wedded shud take a hike
Love itself is patience and i see no reason why he simply can’t wait till marriage if he claim to love you. This simple maths my sist, he’ll dump you if you dare give in. Our ladies now give in too early only to loose their dignity later on.
Anyway i like all the contributions given so far.
don’t loose your virginity to your guy. If you are meant to be together he will wait for you. plus if you sleep with a guy and you too are not married you the lady loses a lot of respect from him.