If you guys have been attentive, you would have spotted that I’ve been a bit silent on here. I have been a little sick and away from the blogging world a bit.
I was pushed down by a fever which intensified as the days went by. On my sick bed, I was faced with a temptation and came across what I have never given it a deep thinking.
My BFF was out on holidays when the fever knocked me down. Far inItalyand knowing how far I live from the main city and also the fact that I do not have any family or good friends around here, she instructed her boyfriend to come and pay me a visit.
He was here to assist me with food shopping and do basic rounds for me if the need arises. He was supposed to return that night but could not since he missed his last train.
I was informed by my friend that if I do not mind, instead of her boyfriend checking into a hotel, he says he can manage with my living room.
I am single and was sick so I cared less. I quickly said I do not mind and we grabbed some DVD’s and settled on the sofa. We watched 2 movies and talked a lot into the night.
It was great, nice and warming for me. The friendly company we shared brought back some sort of light for me. At no point did we ever do anything that my friend would not approve of but at one point in the night, a nasty thought came into my mind.
I am a loyal friend and would not betray my friend but then I began to think about this, if it were me, would I have been able to send my boyfriend alone to my friend’s yard and possibly spend the night with her out there?
In this world we live in, you cannot fully trust anyone when it comes to fire and petrol (men and women).
Let’s get talking about this; could you ever do what my friend did? Send your husband, boyfriend, wife or girlfriend to your best friend’s place with the possibility that they will spend the night together due to the fact that you cannot make it?
Is that not Lacey Duvalle’s picture? why use a porn star? lol!
@chiches, Eii, you must be a porn addict , how can you even tell that a picture is that off a porn star and you know the person’s full name? Damn GC readers.
Anyway, I will come to the topic later and add my comment for now this porn comment is too hilarious. How many porns do you watch a day? Are you a man or woman?
@akosuaghana,Your really smart don’t Pornstars make headlines as why who does not no her just because you don’t know she is a pornstar does not make him a porn addict
@akosuaghana,
I thinks reason for the pic is because of the story line. You know, kind of seeing the other girl as a pornstar. Knowing that with pornstars anything can happen.
@chiches, is she really a porn star,she is too beautiful to be a porn star.
@chiches, most def dats Lacey……………home girl knows how to use ’em waist…dang!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol
der are friends and der are friends…….i have certain friends dat i can leave ma woman with for years and i’ll be safe whiles der are others that i wont even leave ma girl wit for a split second….
i call all dese ppl friends because dey mean a lot to me and dey’ll stand by me all day…the issue with some of dem has to do wit their sense when it comes to women…..
i personally, even though i love girls, i’ll not go down so low and sleep wit ma friends girl…..i wont even go out wit ma friends ex…but as dey say, we were all born differently. the issue of loyalty means differently to different ppl…pleasure mostly blocks a mans sense of reasoning and can lead him where he’ll regret later…dis is where the girls come in.unless it’s rape,a girl should be able to turn down any advances from her mans friend.if she can’t do dat den i’m afraid she’ll have to go, for the simple fact dat we wont be living in isolation.my friends and other guys will always be around……
Humans are different individuals and so we think and behave differently towards one another. There might angels out there but below are things i think cannot be fully entrusted to man
1. Power
2.Money
3.Woman
@Ray, U truly make sense but u forgot the fourth one which is “man”
Human beings are different individuals and can behave and think differently towards one another..there may be angels out there but there are 3 things think cannot be entrusted fully to man
1. POWER
2. MONEY
3. WOMEN
Your pal is not only nice she is also trusting…but am sure she is no fool! She wud only extend such as gesture due to her trust of you…don’t give her a reason to doubt that…shud she ever send him to you again. She cud have easily asked one of her other female friends or family member…anyway I know there are pals I cud defo do this for coz they wud extend the same to me as they have happily left me in their BF’s company and it’s nice to know we’re tight and trusting like that. Though there are some that I wud not DARE to do this…though it takes two! some ppl might be more worried about their dude. One of my male friends who I no longer chat with….he tried it on ALL my female friends at one point and I knew his wife to be…fool but there you go…
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they’ll do their best to stay in touch with you.but nowadays you can’t really trust no one anymore I mean take the Gigs brothers look how the older brother was banging the younger brothers wife but in my situation if u ever did and I found out than i wouldn’t be mad at my best friend just show my girl the exit door and that’s it As a woman you need to know how to controls yourself etc you dong just say yes to someone and go out with him and later on try to eat from two pies
Gud point Miyagi, but thats the same way u men should also learn to hold onto ur weapon.(keep it tight)
@Adjoa nbaaso),Im not an angel but i do agree with you that some men should leafn how to keep their thing in their pants why because trustand devotion are the hallmarks of true love. Trust brings an innocent acceptance and devotion brings a stability that can only exist in the presence of a pure heart the purity of this love is what all of us seem to crave for but few of us find.
Men cheat in their relationship when there is a lack of devotion towards their partner. Devotion is not a “weakness” as thoughts would suggest, there is a depth and purity to it that cannot be understood by the thinking mind true love and devotion go hand in hand. A man who is devoted to his wife or girlfriend would refrain from cheating on her Lack of action in bed indoors can drive some men to look outside their relationship some cheat because they want to try new things in bed that their partner is not willing to try I mean we men need to be able to patient in life you can’t force your girlfriend/wife to do everything your wishing for patient is a virtue whatever you can get out their be true loyal to your partner eating from so many pies want take you nowhere in life
I was having a chat with a male friend yesterday and he was telling me how he caught his “own brother” in bed with his girlfriend, the very day he was about to propose marriage.Well, if a brother was able to do this, how much more a friend??I can never trust a friend when it comes to issues like this cuz human beings are very vulnerable. The bottom line is “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none”
@Adjoa nbaaso),OMG poor dude! Well you know what…that is God for you! He would have proposed and am sure the affair would have continued. As hard as that was for him to see…he made a VERY lucky escape your friend. Only thing is after that may be real hard for him to trust women again. Oh that is sad though!
@GoldenGurl,U r soo right gal.God works in mysterious ways.For the trust issues with women, am sure he is soo scared of women now.
der are friends and der are friends…….i have certain friends dat i can leave ma woman with for years and i’ll be safe whiles der are others that i wont even leave ma girl wit for a split second….
i call all dese ppl friends because dey mean a lot to me and dey’ll stand by me all day…the issue with some of dem has to do wit their sense when it comes to women…..
i personally, even though i love girls, i’ll not go down so low and sleep wit ma friends girl…..i wont even go out wit ma friends ex…but as dey say, we were all born differently. the issue of loyalty means differently to different ppl…pleasure mostly blocks a mans sense of reasoning and can lead him where he’ll regret later…dis is where the girls come in.unless it’s rape,a girl should be able to turn down any advances from her mans friend.if she can’t do dat den i’m afraid she’ll have to go, for the simple fact dat we wont be living in isolation.my friends and other guys will always be around……
This is all about trust. i, for instance can leave my husband in the care of my friend and nothing would happen because i trust him so much to the extent that if one comes and tell me he saw my husband with another lady, i would not believe. So i think trust is very very important in a relationship.
i cant ,and why should i and she wont..