If you are a UK resident who follows the news intently, or even a Twitter user anywhere in the world, then I am sure you would have by now come across the revelation that Manchester United’s midfielder Ryan Giggs was the infamous footballer who took out a £50,000 injunction, to prevent being unveiled as the “family man” who had a 6-month long affair with former Big Brother contestant, Imogen Thomas.
A couple of days back I was reading a magazine interview with Imogen’s older sister, when she was asked whether she felt disappointed in her sister; her answer not only made me angry but shake my head in disgust at how ignorant some women can be.
Not only did she answer that she was disappointed in Ryan Giggs as opposed to her sister, but she was also adamant in her belief that her sister had done nothing wrong by having an affair with a married man for six months because (in her own words); “…he should have known better. He’s the one with responsibilities” (sic).
That statement got me so angry I just wished she was in front of my face to give her an almighty back-hand. I know it takes two to tango, but personally I don’t feel the tiniest bit sorry for Imogen with regards to all the negative press and death threats she is currently receiving- she messed up big time by dealing with a married man, especially as she knew he was married.
Recently, even I have come to realise personally that no matter how strongly you may feel about someone, it is definitely not worth destroying a family over.
Hence, all the recent news concerning infidelity has left me wanting to pose this question to you guys- if you found out your HUSBAND/WIFE (not boyfriend or girlfriend people, we’re talking the real deal here) was having an affair, who would you let rip at first; your spouse, the person they were cheating with, or even yourself (for maybe not spending enough time with your spouse, and not being as attentive as you could possibly have been)?
Women almost ALWAYS let it rip on the other women. I figure it’s because it’s almost like well he’s a man, he can’t help himself and that there is no loyalty from the other woman. Plus I guess the woman must feel hatred because if the other woman didn’t exist this would not be happening to her, she obviously wants to be able to keep her man so she can’t be angry at him. Personally you have no real biz with the other woman coz really for all you know your dear hubby took off his ring or don’t wear one and is telling woman he is single so that can’t be her fault. However if she goes into it knowing? That’s odd becuase he will do the same to you so what’s up with that. I guess we women have egos too! and think he will not do it to the woman he is cheating with…lol yea right. Ok so back to question…yes Reggie, it takes TWO two tango! simples…..
loooool baby gal your answer was SPOT ON in terms of reasons ans stuff…but to be honest both of them would be dead meat for me…and my hubby’s body would be the first one going 6 feet under cause he was the one who was supposed to be committed to me….the other woman- regardless of whether she knew or not- truly wouldnt owe me nothing so yeah she would get her beatdown straight after my hubby’s
Men lie about affairs because they don’t want to face the consequences of their actions if the truth is discovered These are the reasons I’ve heard from male friends in this situation: 1. Don’t want to get divorced, lose their kids, lose their home and money, lose reputation, lose position in community, lose respect of family or friends, lose respect at work, etc Most of the time he is not emotionally involved enough with the other woman to lose these aspects of his life over her those who are Chronic cheaters usually have brief flings or one night stands and the other women mean nothing to them at all. 2. He believes he really loves his wife and wants to stay married to her he thinks he will eventually grow out of the cheating or that the marriage will get better this is the kind of man who justifies his actions by saying that his wife never wants to have sex anymore, she’s gained weight, she doesn’t take care of herself, etc. He will blame the wife for making him cheat, thereby giving himself an excuse to lie about it.3. He honestly regrets the cheating and would never do it again, so he doesn’t see any need to confess since he has already “solved” the problem. Sometimes they really have learned their lesson, but most of the time it happens again eventually and he tells himself the same thing the next time. Unless it really is a one time thing, cheating men and women will almost always get caught eventually and have to face the consequences. But as long as they are getting away with lying, most people will continue to lie. If you suspect you are being cheated on and being lied to about it, trust your instincts and go the extra mile to prove yourself right or wrong. Or, get out of the relationship and move on to someone who you can trust. men normaly lie because they dont want to hurt you but what they dont no is that they just hurt us all the more also they dont want to take resposabilaty for what they did