Love & Relationship: My Brother Hasn’t Told His Wife About His Vasectomy, Should I Tell Her?

Dear GC,

I have a bit of a dilemma and can’t discuss this with friends for fear it will get back to the people I’m talking about.  I was recently catching up with my younger brother over the phone recently. He was home alone as his wife was away on business.

I was asking him when he’s coming to see his nephews as they love him and he’s so good with children. I asked him when is his wifey having theirs. I especially asked because his wife is mid thirties and the clock is ticking.

My brother point blank said, even though he said he wanted kids when they met he is now saying he has no intention of having kids and has had a vasectomy. He told me she don’t know and he aint telling her either.

I’m quite close with his wife and I feel really really bad for her. I cant believe my brother would be this cruel. Even if he’s changed his mind at least tell her right? Should I tell her?

Catherine.

__________________________________________________________________

Dear Catherine

This is truly a sad situation and I’m sure the saying that ‘blood is thicker than water’ will be one of the things stopping you from telling your sister in-law about your brother’s dodgy secret.

As much as I too disagree with your brothers actions, I also feel you need to be very careful with the personal issues within a marriage. I’m sure you feel somehow sensitive about it because you’re a woman and the thought of your husband tricking you like this is hard to swallow.

I would advise against you telling your sister-law in an obvious way as I’m sure regardless of how close you both are, there’s so much about their marriage you won’t know anything about. It maybe that she already knows and has kept it to herself. Also maybe her views on having children could have changed.

If it’s really bothering you and your feeling burdened you could have a general discussion on having children, maybe talk about your opinions without asking her direct questions and see what she comes up with.

It may appear like you are tip toeing around the subject but should you tell the truth you may end up messing your relationship with both of them.

Hope this helps!

Regards,

SassyChic!

Send all your relationship & Love  probs to me via tips@ghanacelebrities.com