Love & Relationship: Should I Say Yes To His Proposal? I Am So Confused, Please Advise!

Dear GC..

There is this guy I knew back in Senior Hight School. We got in touch recently and we started hanging out.

After spending some time together, he proposed marriage but since he has asked me to marry him I’ve not accepted his proposal.

Since spending time together we have kissed but I still don’t think I love him enough to go out with him and commit to him long term. The thing is, we are attracted to each other any time we meet.

Do I stop seeing him or do I stay to see if things work out and my feelings for him grow?

Please help me!

lily…….

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Dear Lily,

From the start it would seem very obvious and tempting for me to advise that you are not into this guy and the relationship is not worth it. The reason I am not going to give you that advice is because you and your man are the only ones who know all aspects of what is going on and I am sure you have not told me even half of the important things that are going on in your relationship.

A few things I will point out though is, I see you do go and see him again and again and you have kissed or maybe been more intimate with him. Depending on your intentions you will not do this if there was no attraction whatsoever.

The problem here could be that he has put you off because he is too keen. It doesn’t sound like you have known each other that long, nor have you spent that much time together since you last knew each other, yet he proposed marriage. Even though you could choose to take this as a compliment after seeing each other just a few times this can be quite off putting for you.

What I would suggest is you need to decide if it’s a case of you not wanting a long term committed relationship at the moment or just that you don’t want one with him.

If it is the first one then yes you should jump ship! However if you like this guy then let him know you like him but you want to get to know him and see how things go.

If he really likes you, he’ll stick around, if he don’t he’ll be gone like magic and he will have done the job for you. But knowing how us ladies can be I’m sure once he backs off and plays it a bit cool you will suddenly find him to be more alluring and attractive.

Hope this helps!

All the best.

Regards,

SassyChic!

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