I do not like to underestimate the power of love, but that will not stop me from saying that so many people over estimate the influence of lovers in their lives.
When the news below was brought to my attention by a loyal reader, all I asked was; what drives people to kill themselves?
The loyal reader is a friend to the deceased “Prince Annor Aboagye” and he described him as a very intelligent, ambitious and calm gentleman. Prince Annor Aboagye had his Secondary School Education at the Opoku Ware Secondary, Kumasi, where he held the Dinning Hall Prefect position during his final year.
The fact that his girlfriend jilted him for another guy pushed him to take his life. Is that how little life means to some of us? It is a very sad situation but it would not stop me from asking the question; Should a man kill himself merely because he cannot be with the woman he desires? Condolences to his family… Read Below for more…
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Traumatised by the decision of his girlfriend to be in a relationship with another lover, a 30-year-old level 200 student of the Christian Service University College in Kumasi committed suicide last Thursday.The body of Princ
e Annor Aboagye was found hanging on the roof in his family’s apartment at Patasi, a Kumasi suburb, shortly after he
had returned from a funeral in Kumasi where he was said to have had fruitful exactions with his friends. According to the Kumasi Central Police, a Bible was found where Aboagye’s body was found.
According to some of the friends of Aboagye, who is also a dispensary technician at the St Michael Hospital at Pramso in the Ashanti Region, he was said to have received a text message from his girlfriend (name withheld) to the effect that she was in a relationship another lover.
Since then, Aboagye became so worried over losing his girlfriend that he was unable to study and write his mid-semester examination well.
Meanwhile, Aboagye’s body has been deposited at the Komfo Anokye Teaching Hospital mortuary for autopsy
Source: Daily Graphic
that;s so sad my condolences to his family
i feel for the family, he went to all the right schools and even had a serious relationship at the right age. i think ghana needs to have more mental health professionals in the school system to help the youth deal with stress and trauma that not everyone is able to deal with the same way.
opoku ware is a very competitive school, if i’m not mistaken you have to come from some money to go there….now, how is it that he is level 200 at age 30 in Ghana(thats added stress right there, abroad its not a big deal but in Ghana it is socially unacceptable in some schools)….now socially Ghanaians expect men to be married and having kids by age 30(thats seems like bs to those of us in the west but lets consider the fact that life expectancy in Gh is 50 and thus that expectation is understandable)….i could go on and on but we will never know i just know psychiatrists and psychologists are needed in Ghana school systems.
i guess its been long since u came to Ghana all these u r saying are things of the past. everyone in Ghana can go to school no matter the age. Kindly do some research b4 u say some things.
@Kin , it doesnt matter at the age of 30 ,he is at level 200 .dont forget
its not everyone who go to Uni or so right after his secondary school ..even in abraod its common as well ..u can decide to work in between and save some money or get working expierence or even serve the goverment or even learn an apprenticship before further the education.. fpr psychiatrists and psychologist we have a lot in Ghana huh but not purposely in schools ..rememeber we have places in ghana wehre menatlly ill people are treated
there was no need for him to take his life and should have help at
psycologist or help from from God as we african belive in God for erverything
than psycologist or whatsoever …
@ Mother
I am aware of Ministry of Women and Children utilizing metal health professionals when it comes to victims of child rape THATS IT mama. There is a range of specialities in Psychology, one of which is SCHOOL PSYCHOLOGYST
and as you pointed out, people seem to think you only need a mental health professional for ABODAM FU well that is a falsehood. In many cases a SCHOOL COUNSELOR or SCHOOL PSYCHOLOGIST can do alot to curtail the potentiality of someone commiting suicide.
And this is where I also feel religious institutions in Ghana fail, WHAT WAS HIS Clergyman doing to ensure that he can feel free to approach him and talk about his stress….I assume nothing because most are so high up on theri mega church aspirations that the forget about the COUNSELING component of being a pastor.
Believe me, if you look at the studies of students commiting suicide in Japan, you will marvel at what they have dont to rectify the situation by having on staff a SCHOOL COUNSELOR
@Kin ..yea dear i agree with too u with the points of setting a school psycologist and councellers at school for help ..and i find it too bad too that these so many churches in ghana dont focus on councelling and what the souls really need when torn apart ..and rather focusing on money ,more often also tend to deceiv people also for money cos of the way our african heritage is made up ,of witchcraft ,vodoo ,black powers of destroying good things ..unfortunately ..but i hope one day they realise ,they need to deall more too with the physical issues …
@ Adwoa, hm, well you can continue to live in your views about it being socially acceptable for a 30 year old being a level 200 student in Ghana. The last time I was there(2yrs of living in Accra), mature students who attend day classes are regularly made fun off especially at Legon.
This is why most mature students opt for night time classes or even those private universities like the one this poor guy attended(thi is the first I have even heard of this Christian Science Uni.
Okay lets say I am wrong, what channels were there at his school for him to be able to go and talk about the trauma of being dumped? Universities also need COUNSELORS in Ghana.
hmmm.R I P ma brother,i no how it is when u loose somone u love soo much but u shldnt hav committed suicide.success dey say is da best revenge.
The things that love will make u do is unbelievable, smh. Is that the pic of the girlfriend that jilted him? rip dude.
This is truly a sad sad story. I do think it’s hard to say though what really happned. I was reading a story about a British Muscian who checked into rehab after his chick broke up with him and then start dating someone else immediatley after. What was said by the psychologists, which I agree with is that most times when someone goes this far it is not just only the break up. The break up is the last straw. How awful for the family to have to find him that way.
Good point sis. I too think there were signs and a series of events that his loved once either chose to ignore or assumed he had under control. @ GoldenGurl
i honestly dont get it when ppl kill themselves all b’cos of a woman/man. is he/she the last person on earth?
i believe that happens to those who rely on their partners wholeheartedly for their happiness and when they decide to leave them then they feel thats the end of their world.
thats not in my dictionary, you leave me today, i will definitely be down for sometime but to kill myself? hell no! there will be a new boo.
lolz “there will be a new boo” spoken like a true Type B personality, yep you know there is always tommorrow and are carefree about it.
This Prince Annor Aboagye was an extreme Type A personality, all hardiness and tunnel visioned. Sad so sad cause there is a strong posibility that he learned how to be this way, having a all or nothing mindset is usually learned but with the help of a PSYCHOLOGIST you can get skills in how to cope and change that mindset.
I HAVE KNOWN THIS GUY FOR ABOUT THREE MONTHS NOW AND HE IS SUCH A GENTLEMAN ANY WOMAN WILL WISH FOR .THIS LADY HAS REALLY LOST A THING FOR HER LIFETIME.SHE SHOULD ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS OF SIN
Girl i donno know about all that, so you think this girl will be going to hell all because she could not love him the way he needs to be loved? I don’t think that’s how the Good Lord wanted it, i mean i see your point though……..
Just goes to show some of the nicest men in the world have a lot of baggage(emotional one’s) that they know how to hide real good. Some of the most handsome guys are the least confident, but you’d never know because like you said we the lay person only see the good aspects.
It may go way beyond just a break up from the girl. There must be more to this than we know. No woman is worth dying over and the same goes for the ladies- NO MAN is worth taking your life over.
AH! If this is her picture then I would say she definitely not worth dying over. hmmm damrifa due ma guy. You wasted your one life .
pure madness, she is not your wife yet. nkwasiasam arakwa ni!
Look dis guy had other problems. The break up was the last straw that got him to do dis to himself. Remember he had just returned frm a funeral and only God knows what he was thinking abt whilst there. When life’s problems come u need people to talk to. I’ve had relationship problems but i was lucky to learn at a very early age not to love anyone to the detriment of my health, work or anything. My mum taught me that and that is how she’s been able to stay married all these years and is aging very gracefully.
I am very sorry for dis guy. As for his family they will eventually get over it and continue with their lives and so will the lady.
But what abt dis guy…dieing for love and losing everything. Very, very pathetic. Yes, we shd love but in doing so leave lots and lots of loving for yourself. Dis guy gave all the love away and when he needed it the most to reassure himself dat his situation will get better, he had none for himself.