Dear GC,
About six months ago I decided on a complete career change and I’m now faced with deciding whether sleeping to get a promotion with my boss would be a good or bad move. My boys are all say go for it. I need a second opinion.
I worked in the health field for three years and in the past year I’ve really hated it. I realised I really couldn’t see myself in the same job anymore.
My girlfriend at the time was a great support to me and encouraged me to peruse my lifelong dream to work in TV. I really want to work in presenting and have wanted this since I left college.
After several short courses, I spent months and months applying for jobs and I was lucky enough to secure an intern position at a prestigious TV station. Other interns who worked there said they were there a year and then got a full time job, so I guess the sacrifice is worth it.
When one of the interns who was an assistant PA to my boss got prompted I applied and got the job. It still didn’t pay but I was closer to the boss which I thought was a good thing.
A few weeks after working with her she asked that I attend a meeting at her home and take minutes one evening.
When I arrived at her house I could not believe how big her house was, she lived in a large house and thought she is someone I need to really learn from. When I got there it was just the two of us which made me think she had done it on purpose.
I felt out of my depth and when she started flirting I thought maybe this is how I am going to get my promotion. Later other people turned up so I thought nothing of it.
After meeting as I was leaving she asked me to stay but then someone offered me a lift and I took it. My boss has been cold to me since that day which is making me feel my job is in jeopardy.
I want this job so bad and I have just found out that I was picked to do my job out of over 100 applicants. I can’t pass up on this. Is this what I need to do to get this job permanently?
Regards,
Teddy
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Dear Teddy,
What your friends who said you should go for it failed to tell you is; if you sleep with your boss, your are effectively selling yourself out. Some women in power want to buy men and they only tend to try this with men who are younger which I am assuming you are.
What is likely to happen is that your boss will think she now owns you and you will be at her beckon call. This might not be an issue with you if you get your promotion, but what if she decides to treat you like some kind of errand boy after you sleep with her? She can throw you to one side if you say no to one of her requests or you loose your job. This will mean you will have to start again.
This is one of those situations where your damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t. The fact is it’s sexual harassment and don’t think it’s not because you’re a man.
Your boss is quite cunning, she asked you to come to her home so you could see that she has money and you would be enticed by what she has to offer. The nice car, the money, the nice house and the possible job is all bait.
It seems you are also taken in by it all. Would you rather not get the job the straight way and know you did it on your own instead of in a seedy way?
I think you should take a step back from this one. If she is still acting funny I would suggest you start looking at a transfer to a different department or a different company.
Regards,
SassyChic!
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Well the fact is the world of today is full of evil and this is one them.Sleeping with her is probably going to turn into something else and remember “lust do not last”, you might eventually lose your job regardless of sleeping with her.Everything has its season so you better wait upon the Lord cuz his promotion is permanent.
but the guy is about to loose his current position…….lust of course doesn’t last but when it’ll put food on ma table for a while, i’ll say go for it and think of other options.
Congrats on you following your dream and following your heart to transition to a new career. That in itself is not easy. As for the situation you find yourself in, I would say, if you sleep with your boss you will never know if you get the job on your own merit or because of you succumbing to temptation. Also there is a great chance that you will be let go in spite of everything. If this lady is proposing this to you, she may be doing so to others. If that is so, she will be ‘outed’ soon enough.
Build your resume where you are. Befriend other people at the station and learn as much as possible from others. Network, network, network. If you stand with integrity you will never be ashamed. I always say, I walk into a room fully clothes with my dignity and I will walk out the same way, no one will undress me out of my dignity. Good luck.
This is kinda like watching a car accident in slow motion. Your boss may be interesting even intriguing but I think you should let this one go She could possibly like you but I don’t think it’s worth it. Like KR said, statistically this won’t end well.
One should not mix business with pleasure. I have learned the hard way that you shouldn’t be with someone that you work with. If they work in the same building as you then it’s a no-go
@ Miyagi
I co-sign that Bruh. As much as we the guys like to smack a pretty nice “given” ass especially coming from a woman who has a major title at the workplace I’ll say our brother Teddy should listen to IamSassyChic advise and let this one pass if it’s a career business related. Even if it’s not a business related, Teddy should STILL let it pass if he (Teddy) has a woman by his side because if the truth comes out he might loose his lady or both woman and guess what, consequence will follow after.
Teddy also need to remember that if he goes ahead and FUCK the shit out the lady boss he’s gonna be her BITCH.
Like they say, to whom much is given, much is expected.
@Weapon-x
Well spoken bruh love the way you finished it off thumps up
Unbelievable
Ever notice that animals don’t defecate where they sleep?
You’d be smarter not to have sex with someone you work with, the principle is the same.
Luck
My Miyagi, is that ur photo right there?Eish, you are cute.
@adjoa Nbaaso that’s my photo yeah sweetheart , thank you
dis is just like de ghanaian movie “Blackmail”..where Dumelo was the guy n Biola was the sexual harassing boy..anyway yeah don’t sleep wit her for all u no she myt ve STDs n u wil get infected if u sleep wit her den ur innocent gf wil b infected too..God wil open another door for u so keep applyin to other jobs..DON’T sleep wit dat woman cos shes a WITCH..
****where Biola was the sexually harassing boss..
Witch paa! lol bt u r ryt anyway.
Your boss and so what. Ok this shohld be pretty simple I dont even know why u need people to tell you what to do..i believe your boss is doing what people naturally do when they are attracted to others. They make moves duhh. Or are afraid because she is ur boss and a woman..or are not a man anymore.. Did she tell you sleep with me so you can be promoted..she hasnt said anything of the sort. I think youre the one feeling guilty and insecure..if ur attracted to her like she seems to be to you be lust or whatever go ahead and bone if ur not attracted to her then be a man tell her to stop cus ur not feeling her lol or ur engage or something. I think ur the one feeling guilty and insecure cus she been acting cold. I mean what do you expect a woman is flirting with you and wants to bone you and u running away do u want her to smile at you the next time she sees you common forget about my boss bs. She is still a woman.. If j continue running u will make ur case worse..let her know how u really feel next time she thtows herself at you. Bone her if u like her if not tell her to calm the fuck down and stop she will respect u for that and actually keep your job. Wont do u any good if u keep running. Look her in the eyes when u tell her how u feel and not act all scared like a wussy. Trust me you wont lose your job she mit even promote u quick quick
yours is the best advice. all others are being hypocrites. if she is not attracted to you forget it. she is a woman in the first place. if you like her go for it. if you do a good job on her I can bet my dollar you will go places. do you guys mean women in high places should not be bonked? they are suffering and pretend on the outside. the lady may be soft on the inside and dying for love. people see them and they can’t approach them. this may be her only means. the very fact that she is his boss does not mean she is an old lady who has passed her prime. man, she may even remove you from the job and put you on another higher ground. the magic word is attraction other wise forget it. just see her as a woman.
WELL YOU DID NOT SAY SHE TOLD YOU SOMETHING LIKE THAT. YOU ARE JUST THINKING. SO IT MAY NOT BE THAT. BUT IF IT IS, THEN LET GOD BE YOUR BOSS AND NOT HIM.ANFD SEE WHAT WILL HAPPEN. IF SHE KEEPS DOING SHE WILL GO AND YOU WILL STAY IN JESUS NAME.
ALWAYS PRAY TO GOD THAT AS YOU ARE GOING TO WORK, HE IS YOUR BOSS AND SEE IF HE GOD WILL FIRE YOU. GOOD LUCK.
JOE
Posted on April 8, 2011 at 13:39
WELL YOU DID NOT SAY SHE TOLD YOU SOMETHING LIKE THAT. YOU ARE JUST THINKING. SO IT MAY NOT BE THAT. BUT IF IT IS, THEN LET GOD BE YOUR BOSS AND NOT HER .AND SEE WHAT WILL HAPPEN. IF SHE KEEPS DOING SHE WILL GO AND YOU WILL STAY IN JESUS NAME.
ALWAYS PRAY TO GOD THAT AS YOU ARE GOING TO WORK, HE IS YOUR BOSS AND SEE IF HE GOD WILL FIRE YOU. GOOD LUCK.
JOE(Quote)