How long can a woman keep waiting after given all apparent signals to a man and he does not make the move?
The idea that a woman can propose to a man brings out divisions anytime it comes up for discussion. To some group of people, it is never acceptable and sounds a bit “whorish & desperate” for a woman to make the first move.
The other group sees nothing wrong with a woman making the first movie, after all we live in a contemporary society where “what a man can do, a woman can do it better” rules.
- Let’s get talking, do you think it is right for a woman to make the first movie?
- Under what circumstance should a woman make the first move?
- Do you think a man’s perception about a woman will change if the woman makes the first movie?
Well I find it a little awkward for a lady to make the first move because some guys take advantages of that.Well, the man would just assume the lady is desperate.
Surely the element of deperation being attached to the woman does exist. So you mean there is no circumstance under which a woman should over look this element and call the shot?
It is normal for a woman to make the first move if they claim what a man can do a woman can also do why is this one difficult
for them. I wonder.
hm, these days anything goes you know…but i still feel as long as it is not a marraige proposal(a big no no) from the woman then in the dating situation its ok
So you mean, a woman can propose love (to start a relationship) with a man but it is a no no for her to ask the man to marry her if the man is taking time to do so?
Exactly! but I understand the article, a man may feel relieved from the pressure of having to do all the action….its something to ponder cause that idea is new to me
I for one appreciate and love it when a woman is confident, and thus love it if she make the first contact. If a person is able to put themselves in a position where rejection is possible (by her initiating communication), I find it a very attractive quality because it shows personality, confidence and ambition to go after something they would be interested in.
I think it shows a great deal about her personality if she strikes up the courage to initiate the conversation
Generally speaking I would say it’s best to stick with what you grew up with. Of course I would love to have you contact me, but, then I am in the driver seat, right? You are pursuing me. Its been a long while that the adage is Men Hunt, Women Pray. Why give up your natural power as a woman?
But I love agressive women, why not? That puts me in the driver seat, I am the one that can choose to accept or reject. Trouble is, with men, I think there is a slight twist. “ah, she’s desparate, I can score a quick one here” And if he does score fast, you will be history sooner rather than later
Natural? my friend has been in contact with this guy who she is crazy about. The guy has said nothing for all these months and you think she should keep quite? What happens if the guy find a woman and he says, I did not know you were interested?
@Gossip Mama maybe the guy is not interested and don’t wont more than a friendship or is already with someone etc it could be anything one thing she shouldnt do is keep quite but express her feelings towards him there is nothing wrong with that its natural like i stated i guess your friend is not a child anymore to wait until the man makes a move i tell you what now days it doesn’t really matter if a girl makes a move or a man some peoplel just need to grow up and understand that the society is changing unless they want to stick to the old days that they will be waiting for a man to make moves man and woman can notice on so many ways when they both like each other
1. the way they strike up a small conversation
2. signs of flirting
3. by Noticing if he/she accidentally bumps into in to the person often than what people do (she’s obviously trying to touch you or feel how strong or soft you are
4. by Observing how she looks at you
5. also by looking out for the daisy in distress or they way she smiles towards you and lets not forget body language
maybe you could give all these points to her but trust me its not like he dont know she likes him maybe there is more to the story that your friend is not telling you and only giving you the good parts
u are right that is just the best thing to do
WELL I PERSONALLY WILL NOT ASK A BOY OUT…IT’S ALWAYS THE GUYS RESPONSIBILITY…SO IF HE LIKES THE THING HE SHOULD COME &| PUT A RING ON IT LOLS .
Than I hear by ask you out lol
LMAO Good comeback lol
Responsibility given by who? Society and general way of doing things right? Don’t you think time has changed and society has moved forward such that this inherent responsibility needs to be re-examined?
@ gossip mama…true the world has changed…society has moved on with technology & yet people die ask yourself why ? Things like these will change but that doesnt make it right…Like i said it’s the man’s responsibility to make moves..that’s how God created men..so i feel it’s wrong for the girl to do that since the man is going to be the head of the household….And oh pls hehe what needs to be re-examined ?twwww lol if he likes it he should come & put a ring on it like i said .
why not?
i personally think a lady should not make the first move on the guy. we got the actions, ladies are good at dat. actions speak louder than words. men are funny creatures. they might perceive u to be cheap and might think thats what u do to lots of guys u are interested in. in the other way if u guys have been friends for a long time i think u can show him visual signs but the word to”: propose “should not be the ladys beef but the gentlemans game to play. period.
I dont think there is anything wrong with it… it is not written anywhere that a man should make the first move or the woman, who ever is more interested can make the move first…..
i dn’t see anytin wrong w/ the woman making the first move. just make sure thats what u really want.
Why not? Then they shouldn’t cry & whine when they loose the men of their dreams to other people. Seriously some women have issues yet they talk abt men’s egos.
i still feel women should rather just tell the guy how she feels about him rather than ask him on a date at least she will spare any embarasment from asking the guy out and only to find out the feeling is not mutual
lol i was cracking up when i read sum ppl’s comment abt hw it is wrong for women to make de first move.abaa this thinking has lead sum women commiting to suicide or even going insane jst bcos they feel it’s de man responsibily to make a move.hey for me dis my advice to women ooo if u like a guy hey jst go ahead n make uur move or better even when it comes to proposal do de same thing..simple stop complicating things women!!!
okay so you mean to tell me, you will take a lady seriously if she asked you out? i have lots of brothers, and they tell me all the time how they make fun of these types of bold ladies so spare me.
Why not take her seriously isn’t she a human to to be taken seriously 5 brothers and the making fun of it laughing my question to you is do they sound serious or is it because the my be mature but think childish about it
okay sensei Miyagi, you have a point. I mean if a beautiful lady confessed her designs on one of your brothers he would yes. but for my brothers they’d likely say no because of the simple fact that in our religion such actions a frowned upon. i suppose the lady in question to do her homework well before doing it
Well I think it depends on the setting man.Some men find it cheap,if a woman makes the first step,some will just use them and take them for granted and some find it interesting and sexy !!!
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it is not right for a woman to make the first move b/cos we are in Africa and also under no circumstance should a woman make the first move. A man’s perception about a woman will definitely change if she makes the first move b/cos he will think the woman is desperate and as a matter of fact CHEAP. So please let us stick to our culture and be Africans not Western way of life.
when a woman proposes it means the woman is desperate and that should not be so. i think a woman should wait for the man to propose. even when men propose to woman see what is happening then a woman will go and propose the man will take you for granted. he, can leave you at anytime especially when problems starting coming up in your relationship he will blame you. no woman should propose to a man.
So I wanted to ask this guy out but that will certainly not be happening after this little debate. Any ideas on how to make i obvious that he should ask me out :)?
Personally, there is nothing wrong with that and I have come across three ladies who have indirectly made the first move. The good thing is that I have never discussed this with anybody and I don’t see them as being desperate or whore. The time has changed.