Love & Relationship Advice: I Am Confused About Bringing My GF Of 8years To Europe To Join Me

Hello GC,

I am a young man now based in Europe and I have been dating my lady for 8rys now. Luckily for me my father made me join him over here in Europe. I just left Ghana 3 months ago. Now that I’m in Europe I want to bring my girlfriend to Europe and ask her to marry me.

Anytime I go out with my father to visit his friends they all talk bad about bringing a lady to Europe, they say ‘…if she starts working she will dump you’ .I  have heard many of my dads friends go through this situation. Please help me out. I really love ma baby girl but I am confuse now!

Dear Brian,

Good to hear you found this new opportunity with your father in Europe. It sounds like you had your mind set prior to the numerous suggestions of only one possible outcome of bringing your long term girlfriend to join you.

While there is no harm in considering the advice given, especially by a more experience group of elders, it’s also essential that you don’t live your life according to someone else’s ideals or experiences. After all if you take this advice and it does not work in your favor, could these men not say…’well my dear son this was only  advice, you did not have to take it on board you have your own mind…”

What you may like to consider is that should you choose to take this advice, you would never know the outcome of carrying out your plans to bring your current girlfriend over. Also what’s to say , what if you meet someone right there in Europe, a perfect mate that makes you smile and nod in agreement, then low and behold this ideal new partner accepts your proposal and does the very same thing you were avoiding in the very first place.

So what I am saying is regardless, you are surely taking a risk either way. The risks are,  bringing over your long term girlfriend and her jumping ship or ending this relationship, starting over and maybe still ending up with nothing.

It would seem harsh to pre-judge your girlfriends actions based on other people’s actions before she’s even stepped foot on the plane. Ideally you would be asking her to come and stay with you for a holiday and seeing how you are able to get on together in another continent under different circumstances. Guys have instincts too so I will advice that you take a risk with one eye open!

Best of luck !
Regards,

Ms. A.K  from GC XXX

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